If your impulsive issues are not effecting you on a daily basis than you probably don't have it. My mom was extremely controlling so that can cause part of the issue. I personally think you sound like you have some form of trauma and should maybe see a therapist and talk out you mom stuff and how to deal with it.
I thought it could be cured with DBT.
recovery is hard and rare for full recovery. So not always, it depends on how hard the person wants it vs using destructive coping like drugs, cutting and eating disorders. Saying it's a cure is kind of an over statement, you can't cure a broken brain, just manage it.
This is not true. The presence of particular behaviours and feelings dating from early adulthood are used for diagnosis, and there is no frequency specified in the diagnostic criteria.
I completely agree.
But those behaviors all revolve around being impulsive due to the amygdala abnormalities present in BPD, whether impulsively lashing out, or impulsively self medicating/cutting, being suicidal or engaging in risky behavior, it's all linked to impulse due to fear reaction. If there is no impulse in your actions then you're more likely to be diagnosed as something like narcissistic or skitzoid depending on if you have dissociation qualities. The diagnosis requires rapid mood instability as opposed to slow cycling that can separate it from Bipolar, meaning if your moods aren't flipping or making you impulsive than it's probably something else.
I was referring to your statement that the behaviours should be 'occurring everyday'. That is simply not true. The rapid cycling does indeed occur quickly; and that can mean within a 24 hour period; but it hasn't got to occur everyday to lead to a diagnosis of BPD.
It is, the diagnosis calls for a "The enduring pattern is inflexible and pervasive across a broad range of personal and social situations." as DSM5 (top of the page on what constitutes a personality disorder), it's what marks it as a personality disorder and not just "oops I guess today is a bad day". Persuasive is the key word there and what links it to destructive coping, people don't jump on the ED, cutting and meth bandwagon unless what they are feeling is generally shit to the point that they just don't care about consequence.
This bears a bit of elaboration. I won't go into too much detail because doing so would be powerleveling, though I can at least talk a little about her.
In theory this is true, in practice, no. All Cluster B personality disorders have a significant tendency to both seek out vulnerable people and then latch on like a tick. They are incredibly manipulative. I worked with a man for two years, and I'm dead certain the freak was a narcissist. He was charming and all of management were convinced that the mountain of complaints about him were racism and jealousy. Cluster Bs will sniff out mental illness and intellectual and. social impairments like a trained dog will sniff out narcotics. People whose families were dysfunctional can have a hell of a time learning that who and what they grew with isn't normal, and that's how domestic abuse is an endlessly perpetual cycle. And then you have people who are genuinely caring, who need.to have their own debts paid forward, who buy into the love thy neighbour crap, the misery lit genre, who have managed to help others whose behaviour is superficially similar to a Cluster B. Things like PTSD and bipolar can be confused with BPD even by a trained eye, so people who have their own complex mental conditions will feel affinity for BPD. And even when the Cluster B target is shrewd, knowledgeable, and has a well developed sense of self preservation, there are going to be times where their judgement is impaired and they are suddenly extremely vulnerable. That's why there's endless accounts from people who were grieving a loss of some kind and found themselves victims of an obvious scam that even they themselves can't figure out why they didn't see it coming.
oh, don't get me wrong. I'm talking more about the high level of autism here
