can you truly apologize? is everything a selfish motive in the end? - are we all lol cows deep inside?

[special need's H20]

okay I know this is kinda black pilled and gay but honestly what do you think? is everything a person does just selfish?

(I hope one of these does not already exists I went five pages down and then I got to lazy to look for more)

 

[Solomon]

yes

Maybe . . .

 

[break these cuffs]

No I'm completely selfless, now gimme all ur money faggot.

 

[BF 388]

A true need to apologize indicates feelings of guilt. Guilt comes from having a conscience that tells you that you have wronged a person in some way.

By apologizing, we attempt to set the wrong to right.

Only you can determine if the apology is true or not. If it's forced or coerced, it's wrong and you know it. You can never escape that.

 

[Vorhtbame]

A person who has done things for unselfish reasons, and has sincerely apologized for some wrong, would not need to ask these questions, for he has his answer in himself.

 

[nagant 1895]

Regret is possible therefore expression of it are possible.

 

[Exorbital Columnations]

OP: Do you regret never learning to punctuate your sentences properly?

Don't bother apologizing.

 

[From The Uncanny Valley]

Some people just never forget.

 

[Niggernerd]

I think I've been selfish many times, but gf reassures me that I've only done what I thought was best for the both of us.
It's hard to believe I've not been but if those you hold close think that's not the case then apologizing for nothing is a waste of time and you should just nut up and act like a big boy and not a nancy.

 

[LyapunovCriterion]

I'm both angry and sorry for being born. I apologize a lot due to low self-steem, but maybe that's just another kind of selfishness.

 

[Niggernerd]

I'm both angry and sorry for being born. I apologize a lot due to low self-steem, but maybe that's just another kind of selfishness.

feels fam. The thought is whether you're selfish for living or selfish for wanting to die.

 

[Y2K Baby]

So "deep" that even a Mick figured it out.

 

[Anonymous For This]

This subject reminds me of when I was a little kid and I wouldn't stop fucking around like a little shit. When my dad would finally have enough of my shit, I would apologize, and he would respond, "If you were sorry, you wouldn't have done it."

Thanks for reminding me of that. Don't apologize for it.

 

[DDBCAE CBAADCBE]

I honestly believe that every action we take and every thought we have no matter how minuscule is based in what I would define as selfish instincts. For instance, I believe that if someone gives to charity it is not an action born out of some genuine feeling toward the disenfranchised but rather an action built upon the understanding that giving to charity will make you feel better about your own actions. I would even go as far to say that you could reasonably dilute the action of taking a bullet for someone else down and pick it apart to find a selfish reasoning. For instance, it could be reasonably assumed that the person taking the bullet in this case believes that he or she will be considered favorably for this action or perhaps is doing so because they perceive that they owe some manner of debt. In the end we're still just animals trying to survive. Our brains whether we want to believe it or not are hard wired to be self serving. I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing quite frankly. In a way it could be said that these acts are still selfless if the person in question isn't aware what baser thought developed into the current one. I don't think that's for me to say.

I suppose an easier way of putting it is these things are all rather relative and don't really matter in the larger scheme of things.

 

[VV 422]

apologizing is a spook. regret is a spook. morality is a spook. humans do and ought to act only in their own rational self-interest

am I cool enough yet, anarchists

 

[The Man With No Name]

Not everyone has done something that warrants a true apology. Not everyone has a value system that would promote that either.

I can at least speak from experience that you can truly apologize and mean it. Guilt is part of that, as is forgiveness. You have to go on a long time if you feel you have truly done wrong and not been given forgiveness. Even then, guilt can weigh on your shoulders long after.

It might just be something that happens to only some people or maybe it just happens as you get older. I thought like OP for a long time, in the way an existentialist might. The truth might be somewhere in the middle. The person you can hurt the most and need to apologize to and forgive the most is yourself.