Co-parenting? -

[FitBitch]

I have a co-worker who has a "co-parent". She never refers to him as "my partner" or "my husband" or "my boyfriend", leading me to assume they raise her three children in an entirely platonic atmosphere.

Perplexingly, she is very anti-gay, something something, sanctity of marriage and children need a mother and a father. Surely a child raised in a household where parents demonstrate healthy romantic love is psychologically better for them than a relationship built around sharing the "chore" of raising them?

I'm no expert but it seems like children raised by parents who can demonstrate healthy love to them would be better at finding good partners in their own adulthood.

Thoughts?

 

[Dom Cruise]

I mean, isn't that kinda like a Godfather?

 

[FitBitch]

I mean, isn't that kinda like a Godfather?

The way she describes it, he's taken on the duties of a step-father without any romantic or sexual incentive. It kinda makes me feel bad for him.

 

[Spastic Colon]

I always thought "co-parenting" was just code for we're divorced/broken up. It was used to make it seem like it was an amicable break up and they actively work together for the good of the kids. Some can actually pull that off, but most it is just a way to put a good spin on things. Like Gwyneth Paltro's "conscious uncoupling" term.

If they've never been married/dated, then I have no idea what that would even mean. Unless he is basically like a live in nanny or something.

The way she describes it, he's taken on the duties of a step-father without any romantic or sexual incentive. It kinda makes me feel bad for him.

Oh ... so she's using him. Had a friend who helped out a lady with a kid like that. Let her live in his apartment. She and the kid got the bedroom while he slept on the couch. They were "dating" but she wasn't ready for physical intimacy. She never was. She moved out when she couldn't easily explain why she wasn't in to even kissing or making out with him.

ETA: On second thought, he could be a pedo. A dude who will play step dad without actually dating the mom is a little suspect.

 

[Marco Fucko]

If the kids aren't his he's a cuck/pedo or he's one of those extremely broken people that tries to feel good by "being a good person". This isn't like "oh hey I have work I need someone to watch the kids", he's not being paid or anything like that right?

 

[Madam Nekromantik]

Oh ... so she's using him. Had a friend who helped out a lady with a kid like that. Let her live in his apartment. She and the kid got the bedroom while he slept on the couch. They were "dating" but she wasn't ready for physical intimacy. She never was. She moved out when she couldn't easily explain why she wasn't in to even kissing or making out with him.

I would think that would confuse the kid a lot when a person that was a big part of their life is just gone for no good reason.

 

[FitBitch]

If the kids aren't his he's a cuck/pedo or he's one of those extremely broken people that tries to feel good by "being a good person". This isn't like "oh hey I have work I need someone to watch the kids", he's not being paid or anything like that right?

I don't think he's being paid but I don't know for sure, he has a job outside of step-fathering.

 

[ThePurpleProse]

Hard to say what the kids will think of that when they're older, ideally they will just not give a fuck and make their own life using other people's relationships as example, but if I'm realistic there's a huge chance 2 out of the three will become huge tards following trends, so they'll end up fucking each other while the third one goes completely black pilled and alienated.

@FitBitch you know your co-worker better than anyone else, if she's an absolute Karen or a Becky. Single moms are already a bad omen for what kids will become but I've never seen a sexless couple raising kids, maybe they turn indifferent to relationships only?

 

[Biggie Smalls' Taint]

I don't think he's being paid but I don't know for sure, he has a job outside of step-fathering.

Then he's most definitely a cuck. Raising someone else's kid in a marriage situation is a bad move, doing it for free is well, it speaks for itself. It's like going to the bank and paying back a mortgage on someone else's house and not living in it,

 

[queerape]

Sometimes, when a couple has a kid but divorces or separates, the ex partner remains to help parent the child so they can still be with both biological parents. This can be referred to as "co-parenting" and how I usually see the term used. Some people feel this reflects the reality of the situation better than ex-husband or ex-partner, especially if the split was amicable.

 

[horrorfan89]

I feel like people wouldn't be so adverse to parenting if it didn't seem like it was something you get no help with anymore. Co parenting or even just having someone to rely on to help with raising your kids isn't in and of itself a bad idea.

 

[Old Wizard]

I came here to say "cuck", but it seems I've been beaten to it. So I'll try and say something original, I guess.

I thought that co-parenting was basically divorced/separated parents being amicable when around their kid(s) and work together to raise them (as in, work their schedules together). Which makes sense. It's what's best for the kid. The whole platonic "co-parenting", however, freaks me out. It sounds like a guy who isn't interested in the mother has unlimited access to her children, in the odd case that he's not hoping to win her love by taking care of her kids. Maybe this guy wants kids, but is an unsuitable sexual/romantic partner and also has a criminal record preventing him from adopting?

Regardless, this guy is setting himself up to pay child support in the case of a breakup.