This is slightly off topic, but I saw a great post on Reddit about this - might've been fake, tiny chance it was real, but that does not really matter.So isn't this an example of where the ideology breaks down? Either JY meets the criteria for being an honest and true woman, under the same qualifying criteria as Nyk, OR it's all a matter of arbitrary and subjective purity test -- the 'no true Scotsman' fallacy in action.
I'd argue that the trans-community either needs to accept *everyone* that self-identifies as transgender, regardless of how well they 'pass' or not*, and regardless of their personal behaviors and attitudes (no matter how repugnant)... OR basically nobody qualifies and the whole issue is a result of delusional mental illness where the broader society is willing to accept the delusions of the patients and play along with their role-playing -- in which case, the ideology crumbles under any slight scrutiny.
It was a while ago so I won't look for a link, but basically, the OP claimed to be a woman in uni that got involved in some queer only group where no non-queer students were allowed. This pissed off a group of leftists who hated identity politics and wanted to use said space to recruit people. So every single one of them, I think it was more than 20, started to identify as non binary to be allowed in. She felt they're not non-binary, and questioned their identity, motives and potential effect on the group, but also didn't want to appear transphobic, and she asked for help as to what she's supposed to do.
This caused a conundrum in the comments. Some told her to trust her instincts - the group did not like identity politics or explicitly queer spaces, and literally told her they want to recruit people in there, so it's reasonable to doubt a sudden change like that, right? Others, however, were disgusted that she would dare to doubt someone's identity, and they have to accept them as non binary no matter what.
So, yeah. The story might've been fake, but the reactions weren't. You can basically tell these people to their faces you'll identify as something only to exploit them, and despite all of their senses telling them this is wrong, they HAVE TO accept your identity with no questions, otherwise the whole self-id thing would fall apart completely.