Dating: chasing ghosts like Pac-Man -

[Gene Parmesan]

Not sure if I'm looking for advice, or expect it, but... Fuck man, I'd like to hear if anyone else deals with this shit at least.

Seems like dating today is basically talking to a woman for a bit and then they vanish. And it's not weird, like everyone should like everyone else... But, ok, for example?

Talked to a girl online for a bit. Gave her my number. She didn't want to give out her phone number to people she hadn't met. So, we set up a date. From the start she didn't seem interested at all. She didn't make eye contact, she didn't initiate conversation, all the bad signs.

So I tried for about an hour, and then just wrapped it up. It was awkward, she didn't dig me, whatever,

I said goodbye, told her if she wanted to hang out again, she has my number, and if not, no big deal it was fun.

And I left.

Next day she messages me online, gives me her number, we text twice...

I ask her out if she's doing anything on the weekend and *poof*, fucking ghosted.

Like, I gave her an out! I expected nothing and let her know it was cool if she wasn't interested, but instead she goes out of her way to, like, reject me?

It's just the shittiest, y'know?

Someone commiserate here. Let me know I'm not alone.

 

[Joan Nyan]

lol cuck

 

[KingQueen]

How about you try making some friends first, perhaps?

 

[Batman VS Tony Danza]

This sounds pretty typical for online dating. It's been done to me and I've done it to a few girls.

Essentially she thought you were alright and was willing to see what happened but someone who appeared more interesting at the time caught her eye. I'm not saying you're boring or anything, just that some other guy left a very good first impression and she decided to put more energy into that. If you're not a hermit then I suggest not bothering with online dating sites. You're competing with a bunch of other guys for the attention of a stranger. Even if you manage to keep her attention long enough to get to know her there's no saying you'll actually like her.

Leave dead animals at her door to let her know you're in this for the long haul.

 

[Lacquer Head]

This is the wrong website for dating advice

 

[MACH-IV]

This is the wrong website for dating advice

Unless you're trying to hook up with Lego Bionicles.

Mine keeps putting me in the damn friendzone...

 

[Lacquer Head]

Unless you're trying to hook up with Lego Bionicles.

Mine keeps putting me in the damn friendzone...

Or fuck dogs

 

[SpessCaptain]

If you're a guy: don't talk about autistic shit like talk about how many women have fallen for you, your prowess in bed or try any of those bullshit 'redpill tactics.'

I will fucking drop you with the force of a million stars and a lot of other women will - these bags of tricks only work with stupid fucks.

 

[MACH-IV]

Or fuck dogs

I'm saving myself for Clifford

 

[Lacquer Head]

I'm saving myself for Clifford

With the women on here I don't blame you

 

[Gene Parmesan]

Thanks guys! I feel better. Batman vs Tony Danza remains my rock, but I appreciate everyone else listening.

 

[ATM]

Maybe she really was a ghost...

 

[A.Shitposter]

Maybe she really was a ghost...

Ghosts can't use the internet dummy, or can they?

 

[Oglooger]

>trying to date a girl you met on the internet
don't worry, you might one day find the one. I really don't know what advice to give since I got lucky through.. well.. luck, confidence and... stuff..
Have you tried not using super mainstream dating sites?

 

[SU 390]

Not sure if I'm looking for advice, or expect it, but... Fuck man, I'd like to hear if anyone else deals with this shit at least.

Seems like dating today is basically talking to a woman for a bit and then they vanish. And it's not weird, like everyone should like everyone else... But, ok, for example?

Talked to a girl online for a bit. Gave her my number. She didn't want to give out her phone number to people she hadn't met. So, we set up a date. From the start she didn't seem interested at all. She didn't make eye contact, she didn't initiate conversation, all the bad signs.

So I tried for about an hour, and then just wrapped it up. It was awkward, she didn't dig me, whatever,

I said goodbye, told her if she wanted to hang out again, she has my number, and if not, no big deal it was fun.

And I left.

Next day she messages me online, gives me her number, we text twice...

I ask her out if she's doing anything on the weekend and *poof*, fucking ghosted.

Like, I gave her an out! I expected nothing and let her know it was cool if she wasn't interested, but instead she goes out of her way to, like, reject me?

It's just the shittiest, y'know?

Someone commiserate here. Let me know I'm not alone.

It seems women of today have this habit. Interested in you for a short time, drop you later. I can see what the LS crowd complains about this though I don't agree with their other ideals. I wouldn't waste time with dating sites. I've done that shit 4 years ago, just for shits and giggles and it's irritating how that works. Just like @Oglooger said try the non-mainstream dating sites and see how that works. My advice to you is don't get your hopes up and keep your expectations very fucking low.

It works for me and I can't wait to get a fleshlight one day without bothering to deal with the stress of dating.

I'm saving myself for Clifford

Clifford huh? Someone likes a challenge.

>trying to date a girl you met on the internet
don't worry, you might one day find the one. I really don't know what advice to give since I got lucky through.. well.. luck, confidence and... stuff..
Have you tried not using super mainstream dating sites?

What sites do you suggest?

 

[Oglooger]

What sites do you suggest?

https://kiwifarms.net/

 

[SU 390]

https://kiwifarms.net/

You cheeky bastard. [gives the I see what you did there pose]

 

[Arctic]

We all know that feel bro. Only advice I have is don't use Tinder, but you probably knew that already.

 

[GS 281]

People using Internet dating sites seem to typically want one of two things: A hook-up or a fantasy. I used to do the Internet dating thing when I was younger and I met some characters. 3 married women, one of them had an abusive husband and wouldn't stop calling me. I didn't know they were married until I saw the ring indentions on their fingers. Met a bunch of girls who would play as though they were super interested and then disappear. Most girls, if they meet you, they are looking to screw.

I am not saying guys are all angels, I am sure they are just as bad, but if you meet someone off the net, they are completely disconnected from your social circle and can float in and out at the drop of a dime, so living out some fantasy or getting off with someone with no strings attached, whether the other person knows or not, is what people seek in online relationships.

 

[SU 390]

People using Internet dating sites seem to typically want one of two things: A hook-up or a fantasy. I used to do the Internet dating thing when I was younger before I met my wife, and I met some characters. 3 married women, one of them had an abusive husband and wouldn't stop calling me. I didn't know they were married until I saw the ring indentions on their fingers. Met a bunch of girls who would play as though they were super interested and then disappear. Most girls, if they meet you, they are looking to screw.

I am not saying guys are all angels, I am sure they are just as bad, but if you meet someone off the net, they are completely disconnected from your social circle and can float in and out at the drop of a dime, so living out some fantasy or getting off with someone with no strings attached, whether the other person knows or not, is what people seek in online relationships.

What you said correlates to what I've experienced.