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Am I getting this right? The "victim" forced the boyfriend into opening the relationship and then proceeded to never mention him again?Wayback machine archive: https://web.archive.org/web/20210406190216/https://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1srlbfj
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So a year ago i met Olivia. We hit it off immediately, as I had never done before. I had a boyfriend at the time. We were not perfect but we were stable. Little by little Olivia and me started flirting, harmless at first, then it escalated and we talked about wanting to be together. She told me she was in an open relationship with her wife Filamena. I agreed to it. Eventually she told her wife that she wanted to be with me, and I told my boyfriend that I wanted ua to be open so I could also date Olivia.
I wish I could say things were good and then went bad. It wasn't like that. Things were bad from the get go. Filamena wasn't ok with us being together, even forced Olivia to break up with me one day. After that we had a talk, the three of us, and Olivia and me went back together. But things kept being shit. I was "the other one", it was never an equal relationship with the one ahe had with her wife. We didn't have any time just for us. And then, later, when a day was assigned for us to hangout by ourselves in a call all day, it was a day decided by the two of them, which clashed with my sunday game, and i had to miss it several times to be able to be with my girlfriend.
A lot of stuff happened in between. This started in September 2020. To be honest i don't remember all of it because it was a shithole and it hurts. But i can tell you that for a time i was really fucking scared of things not working out between the three of us because there was work involved. Money. Money I could depend on. Luckily i have commissions going on now that i can say that is not a.concern anymore.
One of the latest stuff is that we had a huge blowup because basically i had no assurance from Olivia that she wanted to be with me. Oh, I forgot to say: after i tried to go to USA to be with Olivia and figure if things were gonna work out, and I couldn't enter the country, i got back home and my boyfriend broke up with me because he figured i loved Olivia more than him. Which was true, so can't blame him. Anyways, i wanted some assurance, since i had essentially changed my whole life to try to be with her and she had done shit. So i told her to come to Chile. She fought me about it, tried to manipulate me by making me feel sorry for her (that's what she does, beware) but i put my foot down and she bought the tickets.
She's here now. We have had a cool time together, but also a rollercoaster. I was unwilling for a while to work things with her if she was still with her wife, because I felt like i was gonna be treated badly by Filamena. Not badly as in physically or even harsh words. Just thought I was gonna be considered an appendix on Olivia's life by her, and I didn't want that. And I was correct. A few days ago Mena and me talked, and she basically told me what I feared. That, as you can imagine, is incompatible with me being with Olivia. So I told her we can't be together if she's with her wife. She couldn't make a decision so i broke up with her. Later she called Filamena, and when she got off the phone with her she told me they were getting a divorce. So, we got back together. Olivia was bad, and I wanted to be there for her. So i did.
Yesterday i decided i was willing to work things out. Like for real. Figure things out so the three of us can have a good life. Turns out Filamena was unaware that Olivia and me were back together. And the divorce wasn't a thing. Now, you have to understand: this "we are separating, we are getting a divorce" is nothing new. Has happened several times before, so at this point i felt it as the manipulation tactic that it was. And when i found out that she didn't know, and things were shitty again, i couldn't stand it anymore. I told Olivia she should leave her wife if she wanted to be with me. I still believed we could have something. But she never wanted that. She never meant to leave her wife. I was played with and left hanging. For a long time. And i can't anymore.
Last night i was going to leave, go home, leave Olivia at the airbnb i rented for a month so we could be together. She told me to stay. I admit I told her if she left Filamena, we could be together. If not, I would air all of this. At this point, I am airing it not because of that, but because i no longer think things can work with Olivia. I have been hurt enough. I have been left aside enough. I didn't leave last night because she asked me not to. So i didn't. Because I'm stupid. I stayed.
Now i realized this is never going to be good for me. Never. This is going to keep being hell for me. And I am sick of it. I want closure. And I want to not have to cross paths with these people ever again.
They surely will come out with their side of the story. I don't care. It's better, in a way. That way you can get the whole story.
"I had a boyfriend at the time." "I told my boyfriend that I wanted ua to be open so I could also date Olivia"
lol that guy probably had enough shit to deal with and packed his suitcase
