Do You Want Kids? - General "Have Kids!" Sperging Thread [for or against that sentiment]

[mario if smoke weed]

Unfortunately adoption is crazy expensive and a looooong process to get a an kid, that tragically, is severely damaged. Those who can do it, more power to them.

A noble mindset, I just hate the idea that I would have to forsake my genetic legacy to take care of someone's elses.

Fuck, I forgot it was that expensive and long of a process. I'd have to see if I could afford it then; if not, I'll have to sadly just make my own kid - I'm not at all rich, and I'm not Jewish either. Like I said, I'd rather not bring a kid into this shit world, but I eventually want to have at least one kid. I'd try my best to make the kid's life at the very least decent in whatever way I can.

The problem with having a kid the old-fashioned way is that if it's not with the right woman, the woman usually gets full custody of the child after divorce with the male having to pay the mom child support without getting the benefits of being a father and instead with the detriments of a fucked credit score. If I get married, I'm 99% not going to be the one walking out, with obvious exceptions of course. But if I can find a great woman to have a child with I'd be down for that.

 

[CrippleThreat]

Also, OP, you feelin ok lately? Has the world been getting to you?

Just a Zoomer contemplating.

As for that opening post, the nihilism is rebuttal-bait for or against it. I couldn't figure out a way to express how sarcastic I was about the paragraphs besides "muh based cynicism..." Should've put an /s somewhere.

But, children are a likely outcome of an act we casually and vulgarly refer to as "fucking," which is also more officially and scientifically known as "intercourse," which is religiously(?) or intimately called "making love." My mind is on that third one.

A child, in that sense, is passionately made with the love you expressed in greatest possible way humans can with your significant other (if the biological requisites are met; sorry gays). This "critical thinking" intellectual nonsense is making me such profound thoughts on how deep it all goes but...

I figure there are three ways children can be made. And when the time comes for me, I want to have children I love by a woman who I love through making love.

 

[The Curmudgeon]

I have one child. I do not regret it and he has been my greatest motivation to make something of myself and leave a lasting impact on the world. I love him so much and I'm determined to give him everything he deserves so he has a good start to life. We want to buy a country home and live sustainably so he can enjoy clean air, grow food with us, raise some animals, go to a small town school, and have a connection to the earth and the family home.

I think the greatest power children give you is the opportunity to heal the hurts you received as a child yourself, and to magnify the strengths of your family tree. You learn so much from raising children and he has already given me a reason to do my best every day. I'm still on a long road of coming to terms with my upbringing but I choose to stop the cycle of negativity and bring something new to the table with my awareness while my son grows up in our home.

I'm not perfect as a parent but I recognise the huge responsibility of raising a resilient child who brings light to the world. I'm optimistic that even when he fucks up, as most people do, that he will learn how to pick himself up without needing me to do it for him and know that he is still loved while he learns to navigate life. The effort I put into him now will be felt for generations after him.

New lines of children brought up with love, knowledge, boundaries, freedom of expression, kindness, responsibility, awareness of their ancestors, creativity, and security of the home will be the change we want to see decades from now. Children brought up with the opposite of the former will continue to perpetuate violence, hatred, addiction, abuse, neglect, broken families, crime, lack of education, lost potential, and echoes of hurt in their homes, communities, and countries until someone in their tree decides to change things for the better.

I'd like one or two more children when my son is at school and I'm better off financially. I genuinely enjoy being a mother and I'm certain that our family will be rewarded for our investment in them with a stable family and memories of love to treasure forever.

You are awesome and your son is lucky to have you! The world needs more people like you!

Also, I just wanted to clarify to everyone else here that I don't see my personal choices as an ideology. If any of you want to have kids or already have them, then I respect that!

 

[soft breathing]

I've been with my partner for 10+ years, we have a healthy and stable relationship, stable jobs etc. And we've recently been talking/thinking about kids. We're still waiting until the Covid-craze dies down and we have a place of our own before we go further with the whole topic. We're both thinking of adopting for multiple reasons; in the country we live in, it's at least not terribly expensive to adopt.

 

[Thomas Highway]

I don't consider having kids the answer to any of the big questions in life. Rather, I think that by having kids, you'll be too busy living life to even ask yourself any of the big questions.

Yes, you'll have less freedom. Yes, you'll be "used up" by your wife and kids. But honestly I can't think of a better way for my energy to be used up.

That said, I would never shame anyone for not wanting kids. If you don't have that inner desire innately already, then yeah you would probably make a shitty parent.

Edit:

Full disclosure - first kid on the way this Autumn, so this has been on my mind quite a bit recently!

It isn't an answer to any questions in life. Often it will make you wonder just why the fuck you did this to yourself.

The fact that you acknowledge this means you will probably be fine.

 

[LatinasAreTheFuture]

I would really like to have a daughter. Hopefully I’ll give her enough love so she doesn’t turn out like a lot of the girls I know.

 

[DeadFish]

Better question should I have children and the answer is no.

 

[Diet coke made me black]

Has white rural country dude, I have always wanted a family, and I was fortunate in finding a partner who holds similar views has me. The only issues I have is how people in community will treat the kid, considering my fiancé is a black woman. And from personal experience, mixed race kids in our area where treated like trash, especially from black people in our area.

 

[Bussyking7]

Also about the nothing child comments, not everyone in life becomes a huge something or successful, you do not and should not go into parenting hoping to gain something from them other than hopefully a loving relationship.

Very gay. When I have kids, I'm gonna go full Kennedy Sr. on them; lobotomize them if they don't work out.

 

[ProtonMailMan]

Kids.

The only mistake I never made......

 

[Vi0l3t]

I figure there are three ways children can be made. And when the time comes for me, I want to have children I love by a woman who I love through making love.

Just by thinking this way is a good start to good parenting.

 

[Varis]

Fuck no. If any of those little shits decide to harm me - like by splitting my ear drums - there is nothing I can legally do to stop them. I don't need my own asshole genes in the mix. Children are the most protected class and they can all go to hell.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

Yeah, I'm in a full blown biological clock ticking panic. A very animalistic fear I just choose to call existential. I have a bunch of well thought out reasons for wanting children, but the simplest one is knowing I'd kill myself at forty-something if I ended up not having them.

That struck a really bad chord with me because I used to think how I needed to have a family, or when my parents die, I would kill myself.

The problem with it is that I think the way of thinking is both wrong and at odds with the goal. It's a sign of other problems in life and the very tense feeling about it is something that causes you, both through other people sensing something wrong and through you fucking up from tension, to fail to meet a wife. I don't know if you're married but I imagine not given what you said.

The feeling subsided for me as I made more RL friends, but it still lurks there.

 

[Mr. ShadowCreek]

I want kids and love them. I don't care if it's a boy or girl. Though I think a daughter would be more interesting as there were no girls in y family besides my mom. I know my mom would really like a granddaughter as she had 3 sons and has a new grandson. If I had a boy I would like to name him Benjamin and if I had a girl I would name her Lily (Supposedly what my mom would have called me if I had been a girl).

The only problem is I don't want them to grow up in a world like it is now. The crazyness seems to have no stop to it so I would be worried for them. I would want them to be happy, safe, and healthy and sometimes it doesn't look possible.

Besides, I have the worst luck on dating sites.

 

[Rupert Bear]

No one who uses this site should "contribute" to the gene pool.

 

[Fanatical Pragmatist]

Of course.
The purpose of all life is to pass your genes on or die trying.
What makes me any different?

 

[NeoGAF Lurker]

Yes. In fact, my waifu and I are currently trying to conceive. We both want 4-5 kids (biological, she has no interest in signal niglets thank God). I’m in my early 30s and she is in her mid 20s so it’s about the right age to start for her. I wish I started a little sooner but I’m not in Bob Chandler territory.

Fortunately we can afford a large family and I’ve been saving and investing since 2008. So I could either blow my money on degenerate shit or I could raise a large family. I’m choosing the latter but it took a few years to find the right girl.

 

[autist_vibes]

To be honest, my life's been so boring that I sometimes consider having kids just to have something to do other than working, paying taxes and having hobbies.
But I'm currently single so I usually avoid thinking about it so I don't become one of those desesperate, single 30-something women looking for sperm banks. Even though I'm still 23.

 

[Meat Target]

Yes, because I want to leave a legacy.

No, because there's a significant chance they will be taken by Clown World.

 

[Colloid]

Yes.