Complaining about losing their specialness is stupid, but I'm sympathetic to the loss they feel because their communities are disappearing. I was sort of a hanger-on to the gay community in the '90s because my sister is bisexual, and the community was tight knit and ridiculously fun to be a part of.Very true. I had a moment of surprise a few years ago discovering the same thing with gay people. My daughter is a lesbo, and I was at this supper post-sport-tournament thing for LGB people. I was sitting with some lesbians and fags for supper. They were all in their late forties and early fifties. They spent the whole time bemoaning how they have lost their specialness and clearly defined places to gay out since it is so accepted. Completely baffled me. Anecdote is not information, but I got the feeling this was a pretty common view from gay people of that age.
Also, the LGB isn't just losing their community because of greater acceptance by normies. They're also getting pushed out of their own events and organizations by trans people and special snowflake straights. That has to suck.