I think men should fight against those expectations the way women fought against gender stereotypes. What's wrong with being seen as a gender non-conforming man instead of a real woman? You can never become one anyways, so it's a futile endeavor.IN THEORY, this works. But in practice we still have expectations that are way more harshly enforced against non-passing trans people that makes it untenable in the current state of affairs. As well as the fact that there's still body-related gender dysphoria that is shown to decrease with steps to transition. So thinking just purely practically, this train of thought fails.
And honestly this also feels very "have your cake and eat it too" in that you can just pull out this ideal when someone wants to pass or transition but then pull the "you're not even trying!" canard when the previous one is accepted.
It also really comes down to another "why not both?" deal in my case. Since I'm going through with it but am content knowing this is just part of what I am. This is pretty much my thinking on all issues about bodies, not just trans ones. People, motivated by loving themselves, can strive to improve their own bodies in whatever way they see fit. Transition, weight loss, getting gains at the gym, getting new tattoos or piercings. Just boiling it down to experiencing self-hate is simplistic.
I mean, plastic surgery is similar to that I guess. It typically doesn't involve removal of a body part but it does involve people paying thousands of dollars to modify their body. Sometimes it's even used by cis people overcome their body dysphoria when they just can't seem to love themselves as they are.Not many operations involve removing completely functional organs that are not diseased in any way.
Maybe SRS and other elective limb removals should be treated like other types of cosmetic surgeries? People can pay to get plenty of other dumb stuff done to themselves after all. Like face tattoos. Face tattoos are always dumb but you can just go to a tattoo parlor and get dick swastikas plastered all over your skull without needing therapy first.