Bingo. Another issue is, a lot of the older trans people seem to have drank the kool-aid and don't seem to realize there are problems within their own community at large and accept accusations of "transphobia" carte blanche without actually bothering to look into things. I do think there are actual trans people out there who deserve the same rights as anyone else and to be able to earn the same respect for being a decent person (respect being earned, not given- being chill is the basic response to anyone before that);I can't give acceptance to transgender people carte blanche. That is because too many people who use that label are misguided, vulnerable people - often children! - or perverts. I want neither to encourage a sex offender in their fantasies, nor to worsen the mental health issues of a confused person.
but the entire trans movement has perverts, has people who have dug in on issues like women's spaces & children being able to transition for reasons that baffle me, even genuine trans people and some (not all, I want to make that point, but a large amount), of older trans people still supporting that push within the community, and there are definitely major problems with that.
At this point, Id rather see the movement as a whole nuked, return to transitioning being not on anyones radar and not a popular thing, and hope that the aftermath of a nuked movement learns to chill and not get gaslit into all the idpol things. As it is right now, I used to give acceptance to trans people carte blanche, and Id sort of like to return to that or not caring, but because of the amount of crazies and the amount of "normies" giving the crazies free reign and also casual support, I just don't feel all that ethical in doing that.