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SouthernBitchBob
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Lost a grandparent to cancer a few weeks ago. Found out my best friend's boyfriend had an embolism and dropped dead at a pretty early age this weekend. Extremely rare guy I developed an interest in and flirted with for several months vanished from all contact and internet haunts with no explanation back in March; pretending he's going to come back or was anything other than a well-executed catfish despite my highly-attuned suspicious stalker research skillz is a desperate child's game.
Doing my damnedest to keep my personal locus of control on an upward trajectory. Health, career, etc are great. I'd be over the moon if one single event outside my bubble of influence was positive, but it just hasn't been. For a long while now. I don't think I need a therapist. I don't need some crunchy granola lady telling me that objectively sad events are sad, or that I should just abandon my standards and hop on the next greasy pole that gets erect near me as if that improves anything. I need a fairy godmother.
Doing my damnedest to keep my personal locus of control on an upward trajectory. Health, career, etc are great. I'd be over the moon if one single event outside my bubble of influence was positive, but it just hasn't been. For a long while now. I don't think I need a therapist. I don't need some crunchy granola lady telling me that objectively sad events are sad, or that I should just abandon my standards and hop on the next greasy pole that gets erect near me as if that improves anything. I need a fairy godmother.
Just came back from visiting friends and family in the Pacific Northwest (which was a great trip). However, I’ve been feeling introspective about the whole region afterwards. Having lived half my childhood in the PNW and on-and-off again during the last decade for school and work, it’s surreal how much it’s changed. I can’t tell if it’s just me getting older or if the entire region has transformed into something… else (I strongly suspect the latter). The place I come from does not really exist anymore. It’s peak first-world whining, but I wonder if this is how South African expats and even Syrians feel about their birth/ancestral homelands as well?
Thinking out loud, I wonder if in the future it’s better to build a life for yourself elsewhere or stay/return to try and make your birth/homeland better? Like, if I was offered a job in the PNW, I don’t know if I would even take it (despite my personal history). I guess this is something all migrants think about…
Thinking out loud, I wonder if in the future it’s better to build a life for yourself elsewhere or stay/return to try and make your birth/homeland better? Like, if I was offered a job in the PNW, I don’t know if I would even take it (despite my personal history). I guess this is something all migrants think about…
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Well, have pretty much graduated to the cane from the walker. Drove myself to primary care doctor this morning, then to Costco. There, the shopping cart was my walker. Walked around some, probably the most walking done since returning from the hospital. Taking it easy now, a little walking later.
Almost contemplated driving my boyfriend to the ER today. I heard him yelping like I'd never heard him before. Go to investigate, and decipher from his expletives and pain that something bit him him when he put his shoes on. I gingerly flip it over and out falls a 2 inch bark centipede. I step on the mf to kill it (took awhile for it to actually die, thing's resilient). I was worried if he'd have an allergic reaction but it seems to just be like a very bad wasp sting.
I've gotten bit by ants, 'squitos and gnats and stuff. But I've somehow never been stung by a bee or wasp or whatnot in my life. I feel bad that I can't relate to how much pain he's in, but also glad I can't? It's also funny. We have a pet centipede (different species), and when we told our friends about the incident today they were like "how did it get out?!" Thankfully it wasn't our 8 inch long red headed centipede. That would have been at least 10x worse.
Scorpions are a thing in the summer here. I've squished a couple small ones so far. But this makes me want to checks my shoes twice whenever I put them on now.
I've gotten bit by ants, 'squitos and gnats and stuff. But I've somehow never been stung by a bee or wasp or whatnot in my life. I feel bad that I can't relate to how much pain he's in, but also glad I can't? It's also funny. We have a pet centipede (different species), and when we told our friends about the incident today they were like "how did it get out?!" Thankfully it wasn't our 8 inch long red headed centipede. That would have been at least 10x worse.
Scorpions are a thing in the summer here. I've squished a couple small ones so far. But this makes me want to checks my shoes twice whenever I put them on now.
DyingStarsForever
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I've considered moving to warmer climates off and on, but stories like these remind me of why I'm staying in the frozen north.
Doing a lot better than I was when I posted months ago. I had a baby, he's almost 3 months old now and he's my joy. Makes the fear and self loathing for not being happy about my pregnancy a distant memory, doesn't even seem like I really felt that way, actually, I was just afraid. Little dude is exactly what I needed.
I am a little bummed though, he had a horrific case of cradle cap, and he's balding in the back/on the sides from his rubbing his big coconut all over the mattress, etc. He'd worked himself a natural Mr. T mohawk, it was adorable. Unfortunately, as I worked in coconut oil and gently removed the cradle cap with a comb, his hair was coming off with the scales. Now he has a reverse Friar Tuck thing going on, it's like he's got a hair yarmulke and worse still, a tiny tail of hair at the nape. What. The. Fuuuuck.
He's still adorable, though.
I am a little bummed though, he had a horrific case of cradle cap, and he's balding in the back/on the sides from his rubbing his big coconut all over the mattress, etc. He'd worked himself a natural Mr. T mohawk, it was adorable. Unfortunately, as I worked in coconut oil and gently removed the cradle cap with a comb, his hair was coming off with the scales. Now he has a reverse Friar Tuck thing going on, it's like he's got a hair yarmulke and worse still, a tiny tail of hair at the nape. What. The. Fuuuuck.
He's still adorable, though.
I may be wrong about this one, but could he suffer from an overgrowth of malassezia? Rubbing in coconut oil will make it worse, since it feeds off of the fatty acids. Heavy moisturisers will make it worse too, since it makes a barrier and therefore a nice humid environment for the fungus to thrive in.
If it's malassezia, apply anti-fungus ointment and use head & shoulders on him.
I got it! Took a bit longer than expected for everything to be finalised, lmao. Maybe the tension headaches will go away now.I may or may not have gotten the big break I've been working for months towards. I'll be notified in a week.
shave the baby
save him
from hair
(It'll be fine, he'll get his hair back soon)
He's got a doc appointment coming up, I'm going to ask him to take a look. All the scales are gone now, but so is his hair.
My older kids are telling me to just shave it but I caaaaan't! My husband got home from work just now and he's telling me to just shave it too. Eeeeek.
verygayFrogs
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Babies get scales?
Yeah it's like adult dandruff, they get scaley patches on their scalps sometimes. Not all babies but some of them. It sucks.
Cheerlead-in-Chief
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Sorry to PL, but if you want your next kid to have smooth skin eat copious amounts of oatmeal and bathe the newborn in oatmeal
verygayFrogs
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Oh ok I thought it was some lizard thing
Monkey Shoulder
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you're thinking of harlequin babies
It’s mostly a “country thing” I suppose. At least when I lived in a city I rarely ever worried about venomous bugs. Besides the occasional spider in my garage. Now I live in a town with a lot of fields the creepy crawlers are more common. I can’t take the cold well (aka anything below 50 degrees F), otherwise I have contemplated moving more north as well.
SouthernBitchBob
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Oh. Learned today that an attorney called her. She got a ring he had bought for her. He was setting up the right time to give it to her. Understandably she went from mess to complete emotional breakdown. Being the best listener I can, though I know that barely helps in the short-term. What is this timing? Some days I think the external forces in my life are all the worst parts of a terribly-written Lifetime movie. I'm glad I'm exercising out of habit, because I'd feel like sleeping half the day away given even a nudge.
Had a kinda heated up discussion with the guy I'm seeing. I don't even know what to call it, because he was at my place October last year. Since then we only have chatted, so I don't even fucking know why this is even important at this point.
It balls into basically this. Not everything can be thrown into the dryer, so I have to hang up stuff to dry. Because he can't because of his back. I'm telling him to just buy stuff that can be thrown into the dryer, or else he can hang it up himself.
Then I get this speech about how we have to share responsibilities and customise our habits to be in a relationship. I get that part, but it doesn't mean to work harder when there exist an easier solution. And it's easy to be on the high horse, when he's not the one doing it.
This is all hypothetical according to him. He's really a dumb fuck sometimes.
It balls into basically this. Not everything can be thrown into the dryer, so I have to hang up stuff to dry. Because he can't because of his back. I'm telling him to just buy stuff that can be thrown into the dryer, or else he can hang it up himself.
Then I get this speech about how we have to share responsibilities and customise our habits to be in a relationship. I get that part, but it doesn't mean to work harder when there exist an easier solution. And it's easy to be on the high horse, when he's not the one doing it.
This is all hypothetical according to him. He's really a dumb fuck sometimes.
verygayFrogs
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Internet and cable has been out since 1. Currently using the rest of the data on my phone since my parents are making me switch providers because they don’t like going to Walmart even though it’s a fine provider. At least I have smash bros
