How do you meet new people these days? - A discussion of modern friendship and romance in the age of technology.

AcornsAreForever

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The following may sound a little extreme, but it's very effective and I've met so many wonderful people with my surefire method. It's a great icebreaker and it's so much safer than making friends online.

When I feel like I need a new friend, I put on a wig and dark sunglasses and sit outside of one of my favorite stores (so we'll have stuff in common) and wait until I see someone who looks interesting, then as they're walking back to their vehicles or other mode of transport, I rev my engine and run them over (not too hard, this is about making friends, not burying strangers). Anyway, I quickly park far enough away, rip off the wig and sunglasses and run to their aid. I tell them that I'll help them catch the fucker who did this to them. If they're injured, I take them to the nearest ER, if they're not, I take them to lunch and get to know them. We never catch the deviant who did the hit and run, but by that time, it doesn't matter because they've got a great new true blue, loyal and honest friend, ME!

I met my husband this way and we've been together for 12 years.
 
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Psychward User

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Don't be a pussy,get out and meet people,the usual sites are school,gym,related hobbies. Internet took the 90% of my life so i can't get you anymore help. I rarely leave my house those days.
The fast way is start smoking drugs,and you meet a lot of people honestly.
 

Nykysnottrans

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Travel and see the world is all I have to say. You can meet a lot of cool people travelling and no one has to worry about attachments because you're all just passing through. Telling people you're travelling is always a good conversation opener. You can even join a travel group (if you're scared of talking to the locals, don't speak the local language or only want to meet your own people).
 

Slappy McGherkin

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One word - WalMart.

Y'all think I'm crazy. But, you would be amazed at how many people I meet and converse with at WalMart. Some hot, some not. I'm used to reading people and not afraid to strike up a conversation. Same thing at Home Depot. Or the grocery store. It's easier than you think.

Decent looking gal, sort of staring at the aisle of BBQ sauces, undecided. "Are you looking for a good sauce? What are you cooking?" Conversation ensues. Gal in Home Depot, garden section undecided look about the pepper plants. "Are you looking for something special?" Yes, there's a pepper they used to make a Mexican dish here, but I don't remember the name of the dish. "Chile Relleno?" YES, THAT'S IT! "You need this type of pepper, poblano ancho." Conversation ensues.

Of course, it helps if you actually know what the hell you are talking about, but not a limiting factor. You can draw people out asking for their knowledge, as well. "Hi, I was going to make some chicken on the grill tonight, which of these do you think would be a good BBQ sauce?" Or, "I've been trying to grow some peppers (or whatever here), do you know what might grow well in our area that my black thumb won't kill?" And again, conversation ensues.

As long as your not creeping somebody out, you'd be amazed at how easy it is to strike up conversations over the most mundane things, elicit a little humor, and bring a smile or thank you by just being friendly. The world really isn't a big scary place, it's just that so many people have withdrawn into having "friends" that exist only on a screen in front of them.

A final note for whatever it's worth and I didn't see mentioned as I skimmed this thread - A fantastic place to meet new people, friends, perhaps a romantic interest is:

Go to church. Doesn't make a shit what religion you are or aren't, there are some really good non-evangelical churches that accept and welcome all.
 

Fougaro

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It seems these days that the social barriers have only grown immensely stronger in the past ten years, so I wanted to pose a question to anyone willing to talk about it, guys/girls/whatever. What do you do to meet new friends and lovers these days? Do you just go out and talk to some person on the street, ask for their number or to hang out? Is it just a work thing with co-workers and the occasional client/customer that meets you halfway in interest? What about a public setting like malls or bars, or jeez, the beach? Do you prefer just social media and dating apps? How do you make friends online then?

I wanted to get people's opinion and understanding on these types of issues, and if I'm just an odd person for feeling that way because it's something that I struggle with.

(I'm going to disregard school/college, should be obvious why)
You just go outside, give people a friendly smile and say "Hello!". Sometimes you won't even get tazed or pepper sprayed. 🙂
 
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Slappy McGherkin

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Follow up with "I see you've got some nice buns. Would you be interested in some meat to go between them?"
I think ya missed the point of the post, you're not to supposed to creep on 'em. But hey, you never know what works!
 

tumblrkek

never gonna make it
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If you don't mind the smell you could definitely go to MTG meetups. I'm not a regular but I go to my local shop now and then for booster drafts and it's always chill, met a couple bros there. Also conventions. Don't know what you're into, but it's easy to meet people into the same hobby as you.
 

melty

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Well right now I don't. But when I did, it was pretty successful to do autistic meetup groups and things. Anime conventions, board games, or whatever you're interested in. Ok, maybe not anime conventions. Dunno if I would recommend it. But it works for some people.
You can even meet people on kiwi. I used to suggest hanging out sometime to people if I found out they were in the same area. The site was smaller, but it worked and the people I met were really cool.
I don't think most normie venues are good ways for meeting people. I guess bars are ok. I wouldn't try to meet people at the beach or club.
You just have nothing in common with them except super basic normie things like hiking or beer. I made a really good friend on a bus one time but that's not typical.
Pokemon Go is another one. I mostly made casual acquaintances from this but other people in my area have become friends.
If you try to go a nerd event it's better to not wear bland stuff, people won't talk to you as much.
If you're nervous about talking to people, what's the worst that can happen? Some stranger thinks you're weird, who cares they will probably forget you tomorrow. If they don't, it doesn't matter at all.
 
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Toucan

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I have noticed that a lot of incels/shutins seem to have a similar problem and that is a lack of personality. By this I mean most of these people are incredibly boring people who instead of developing an interesting consciousness have latched on to a handful of incredibly niche brands, be it anime or the blackpill or whatever.
Things like this must have happened in the past, I refuse to believe that this is a modern phenomenon, however I do believe that modern conditions of life are conducive to fostering a kind of loneliness and insularity amongst people.
Without a personality there is nothing for other people to latch on to. You can not expect other people to immediatly adopt you into their life if you have nothing that is interesting about you, nothing that inspires some kind of passion of life. You have to develop who you are as a person. Not as some string of consumer products, nor some avatar for a niche ideology. You need something concrete about you that make other people stop and think.
 
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Sprig of Parsley

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I have noticed that a lot of incels/shutins seem to have a similar problem and that is a lack of personality. By this I mean most of these people are incredibly boring people who instead of developing an interesting consciousness have latched on to a handful of incredibly niche brands, be it anime or the blackpill or whatever.
Things like this must have happened in the past, i refuse to believe that tis is a modern phenomenon, however I do believe that modern conditions of life are conducive to fostering a kind of loneliness and insularity amongst people.
Personality is not synonymous with character necessarily but the two concepts are closely related. Certain things tend to build character and shape your personality. Incels/shutins are basically missing the formative events and so on that tend to cause people to develop in that fashion. They've got the Internet to crutch on as a placebo for social stuff and to reinforce bad habits via echo-chambers.
 

Guts Gets Some

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I've honestly had more luck with meeting people the past two years by just being on a few forums, than I have in over 10 years.... when.... guess what? I last used forums.

It's kinda sad shit like Reddit and social media is replacing forums, because if you're not that active outside, a forum that pertains to you is just about the best place I can think to actually MEET someone (IE, get to know them, grow close, become real friends or whatever else) than anywhere else.
 
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PL 001

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Mostly through my job. I've got my small circle of good friends that I've known forever, and I'm pretty content with that.

It's nice to have those acquaintances you're friendly with and make connections/network, but I dunno... I'm just not all that interested in evolving those relationships into actual friends. Maybe it's just me getting older and "set in my ways" maybe it's just me not relating on a more personal level with people these days, maybe it's slight mistrust, maybe all of those things or none at all. It's something I really can't put a finger on why.
 

Recoil

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I have noticed that a lot of incels/shutins seem to have a similar problem and that is a lack of personality. By this I mean most of these people are incredibly boring people who instead of developing an interesting consciousness have latched on to a handful of incredibly niche brands, be it anime or the blackpill or whatever.
Things like this must have happened in the past, I refuse to believe that this is a modern phenomenon, however I do believe that modern conditions of life are conducive to fostering a kind of loneliness and insularity amongst people.
Without a personality there is nothing for other people to latch on to. You can not expect other people to immediatly adopt you into their life if you have nothing that is interesting about you, nothing that inspires some kind of passion of life. You have to develop who you are as a person. Not as some string of consumer products, nor some avatar for a niche ideology. You need something concrete about you that make other people stop and think.
It's a side effect of lifestyle marketing.
 

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Join KiwiFarms.

I took some improv classes. I was good at the improv, not so good at being serious. I didn't want to look like a jackass.
 

Raging Capybara

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I have noticed that a lot of incels/shutins seem to have a similar problem and that is a lack of personality. By this I mean most of these people are incredibly boring people who instead of developing an interesting consciousness have latched on to a handful of incredibly niche brands, be it anime or the blackpill or whatever.
It's still a personality.

Enjoying animes and porn games on steam are as worth as enjoying netflix and pop songs.

I think you're just projecting what you believe to be of real value on your life to others. And no, I don't like anime.

And honestly, who are interesting nowadays in the world? Everybody is bland as fuck so who cares?
 
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