How do you meet new people these days? - A discussion of modern friendship and romance in the age of technology.

Raging Capybara

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I have noticed that a lot of incels/shutins seem to have a similar problem and that is a lack of personality. By this I mean most of these people are incredibly boring people who instead of developing an interesting consciousness have latched on to a handful of incredibly niche brands, be it anime or the blackpill or whatever.
It's still a personality.

Enjoying animes and porn games on steam are as worth as enjoying netflix and pop songs.

I think you're just projecting what you believe to be of real value on your life to others. And no, I don't like anime.

And honestly, who are interesting nowadays in the world? Everybody is bland as fuck so who cares?
 

Sprig of Parsley

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It's still a personality.

Enjoying animes and porn games on steam are as worth as enjoying netflix and pop songs.

I think you're just projecting what you believe to be of real value on your life to others. And no, I don't like anime.

And honestly, who are interesting nowadays in the world? Everybody is bland as fuck so who cares?
Pretty sure this post is facetious but ok, I'll bite.
Your personality is so, so much more than your tastes in entertainment. Or at least, should be. Measuring others by your own yardstick is an unavoidable comparison to make - everyone does it because it lets us evaluate compatibility or lack thereof. There are interesting people out there, but you're more likely to find them off the beaten path these days. A lot of people have subscribed to the notion of letting their tastes in whatever or their immutable characteristics dictate what constitutes their personality. If you ask me, it kind of seems engineered to facilitate consumerism.
 

Toucan

Peace on earth!
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It's still a personality.
Is a room adorned with only a single promotional poster for say 'Cowboy Bebop' a room that you would call decorated?

Enjoying animes and porn games on steam are as worth as enjoying netflix and pop songs.
In no way did I ever say they were not worth enjoying. I merely said that a consciousness that includes SOLELY consumer products/toys etc is one that is incomplete and lacking in personality. By this i mean that an illusion of personality is errected through the use of these preprepared products, a mask if you will.

I think you're just projecting what you believe to be of real value on your life to others. And no, I don't like anime.
Again you have misunderstood the premise, which leads me to believe you are either a moron or a jolly scamp trying to rile me up. Once again I will say I make no value judgements on anime. I say that a person who bases their consciousness SOLELY on these products is one that lacks in personality.

And honestly, who are interesting nowadays in the world? Everybody is bland as fuck so who cares?
Oh dear. Now whos projecting?
 

Raging Capybara

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I say that a person who bases their consciousness SOLELY on these products is one that lacks in personality.
Most people do the same, but with other interests. But anime fans are always the favorite target of everyone. It's prejudice.

What's the difference between a "chad" who only cares about working out and parties, and a weeaboo? Absolutely nothing.
 

Toucan

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Most people do the same, but with other interests. But anime fans are always the favorite target of everyone. It's prejudice.

What's the difference between a "chad" who only cares about working out and parties, and a weeaboo? Absolutely nothing.
I dont think youve met enough people in your life to pass comment on such things.
 

AcornsAreForever

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Slap your cock on the table and if it's impressive enough people will worship you as their God

Sycophants>friends
Or, if you're a woman, shove your boobs in their face. It's a great icebreaker and it shows people that you're adventurous and confident. People appreciate confidence almost as much as they appreciate a nice set of boobs.
 
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Sīn the Moon Daddy

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I meet new people by talking about random shit online
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Pretty sure this post is facetious but ok, I'll bite.
Your personality is so, so much more than your tastes in entertainment. Or at least, should be. Measuring others by your own yardstick is an unavoidable comparison to make - everyone does it because it lets us evaluate compatibility or lack thereof. There are interesting people out there, but you're more likely to find them off the beaten path these days. A lot of people have subscribed to the notion of letting their tastes in whatever or their immutable characteristics dictate what constitutes their personality. If you ask me, it kind of seems engineered to facilitate consumerism.
Engineered consumerism! The subject of some pulpy sci fi books as well as some great ones. Enforced consumption were background details of Brave New World and Farenheit 451. I particularly enjoyed a pulpy book that made a sort of futuristic corporate rule based around material culture is Jennifer Government.

Everyone agrees that writing a book about Nike planning a mass shooting to drive sneaker sales was a bold move.
 

Fat Pikachu

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I tried to join meetup.com and then realized that it's literally just a bunch of gays who go bar hopping and 50+ lady book clubs and that was the end of my Friendship Saga.
Not like I'd ever be Chad enough to actually show up to a meetup full of strangers anyway...
 

Sprig of Parsley

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I tried to join meetup.com and then realized that it's literally just a bunch of gays who go bar hopping and 50+ lady book clubs and that was the end of my Friendship Saga.
Not like I'd ever be Chad enough to actually show up to a meetup full of strangers anyway...
I tried it a couple times in college with a group with which I had common interests and I still had a notable tendency to kind of play the wallflower, or go off to play an arcade cabinet, or buy a drink/some food and just kind of nurse it/nibble at it at the fringe of the group depending on where we were. I could kind of fit into the group dynamic at times but turning myself into an outgoing person was extraordinarily difficult.

EDIT: The thing was, I considered them friends or friendly acquaintances and could easily have conversations with them in one-on-ones or in pairs or so, but being with the whole bunch as a group turned me into something like a lurker really.
 
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Fat Pikachu

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I tried it a couple times in college with a group with which I had common interests and I still had a notable tendency to kind of play the wallflower, or go off to play an arcade cabinet, or buy a drink/some food and just kind of nurse it/nibble at it at the fringe of the group depending on where we were. I could kind of fit into the group dynamic at times but turning myself into an outgoing person was extraordinarily difficult.
It's almost as bad as when you find out you actually think someone is cool and you get along well, but you just become "hi-bye" friends who never spend any actual time together but you'd feel like a bit of a creeper if you suddenly asked them to go mini golfing with your one other irl friend or something.
 
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Lioness

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I'm a bit isolated to meet anyone.

I took up gaming with voice chat.

Now I have a small collection of dudes trying to get my number.

I'm going to buy a value pack of horse cock dildos, invite all of them over simultaneously and make them dickjoust to the death for my favor. Like REAL men.

Maybe whichever ones don't die choking on rubber equine schlong will make some friends along the way too.
 
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Guts Gets Some

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I'm a bit isolated to meet anyone.

I took up gaming with voice chat.

Now I have a small collection of dudes trying to get my number.

I'm going to buy a value pack of horse cock dildos, invite all of them over simultaneously and make them dickjoust to the death for my favor. Like REAL men.

Maybe whichever ones don't die choking on rubber equine schlong will make some friends along the way too.
Should've said you were a 13 year old boy instead. Then you'd only have to worry about ProJared.
 

Ali della Fenice

Cosa credi, che abbia perso la forza?
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meeting people is not hard per se.
What it is hard is, meeting someone whom you share 1 or 2 hobbies with, who lives relatively close to you, who likes you and whom you like back.
 

Ali della Fenice

Cosa credi, che abbia perso la forza?
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I'm a bit isolated to meet anyone.

I took up gaming with voice chat.

Now I have a small collection of dudes trying to get my number.

I'm going to buy a value pack of horse cock dildos, invite all of them over simultaneously and make them dickjoust to the death for my favor. Like REAL men.

Maybe whichever ones don't die choking on rubber equine schlong will make some friends along the way too.
I don't care about numbers, but I like to beast betas with my cawk. If you have some kind of form that needs cumpilation, to be accepted in this tournament, let me know.
 

Exigent Circumcisions

I can smell youuuuu.... you smell niiiiice....
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You need to figure out what you actually want from people, figure out how to identify the people who will scratch that itch, then find a way to attract that kind of person. I had a lot of problems finding friends when I was younger because I thought I was looking for like-minded people with a similar personality; turns out I find people like myself aggravating. Now I aim for people who have life experiences and ideas that I find interesting or useful or who just make me laugh and are fun to argue with and try to get myself on their level instead of applying a yardstick to everybody I meet.

Next step; don't be a pussy. If you find an opportunity to say something mildly insightful, or witty, or sympathetic to somebody (anybody at all, really) just do it. It will freak a fair number of people out; we're not used to talking to strangers anymore and I swear most people are suffering from low-grade social anxiety (I know I am) so don't you freak out and make it weird. Smile in their general direction and act like a Canuck:
"Sorry, I like to run my mouth sometimes."
Also, don't be a pussy and try to make nice with everybody. You won't like some people after that initial contact; just stop, dude. Not everybody's going to like you either. Don't worry about it.

See where that goes. Just remember; people are social animals and most of us are ready and willing to strike up a buddy-buddy relationship with very little prompting. And every once in a while, that'll turn into a friendship. I generally wait and see if we start talking about the particulars of our lives (job/relationship status/where'd ya grow up etc.) before I start worrying about whether or not we're going to be Friends, but I'm always happy to have a buddy for 10 minutes at the doctor's, on the bus, whatever. Every 30 buddies and you should get your next Friend absolutely free!

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Older folks are a safe bet in my experience. They're more comfortable with social contact so they speak more freely and they're generally more tolerant of young people's foibles. When I hit a new town I make friends with the folks at the old-timer's bar first; eventually the younger people in the area see you hanging out with their dad's friend and assume you've been around forever or that you're at least tolerable if the old codgers didn't boot you out on your ass. Then it's easier to break into the younger cliques and gain that sort of broad social acceptance that's usually hard to achieve in more insular places.
 
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Sprig of Parsley

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There is actually research showing that there is a time period that ends in your twenties after which it is much more difficult to be open to or interested in new friends. Certainly that is true with me.
Would explain a lot of things with me, actually.

You need to figure out what you actually want from people, figure out how to identify the people who will scratch that itch, then find a way to attract that kind of person.
I'm honestly not even sure what I want anymore, so I've tentatively settled for wanting people to more or less leave me alone (and sometimes they refuse to do that). I was capable of threading the needle of finding the right group to fall in with years ago and then the group dynamic changed and screwed that to hell.
 

Exigent Circumcisions

I can smell youuuuu.... you smell niiiiice....
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so I've tentatively settled for wanting people to more or less leave me alone (and sometimes they refuse to do that).
I don't think any of my advice will work if you've got autism.
:tomgirl:

Naw, I feel for you bruh. I've been there. In fairness though, I was a shitty person then (or a shittier person, at least) and I was just saving everybody else the trouble and embarassment.
 

Sprig of Parsley

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I don't think any of my advice will work if you've got autism.
:tomgirl:

Naw, I feel for you bruh. I've been there. In fairness though, I was a shitty person then (or a shittier person, at least) and I was just saving everybody else the trouble and embarassment.
I've kind of tried to candy-coat my coarser aspects a bit at least while I work through whatever and reach out more and it hasn't gone well. I have this weird knack for attracting the kind of person who thinks I need them in particular to fix me (or worse, I need some kind of surrogate mother/father figure, which is a fantastic way to upset me) and it usually ends up in a "blind leading the blind" situation at best, at worst they hit a "button" I didn't even really know was there at the time and I either ghost them or chase them off. Isolating is kind of the "I'm sick of getting hurt and hurting others" response.
 
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