I play Warhammer and DnD, I've met a lot of people through game stores. Also going out to bars with co-workers. I don't understand how people can use dating apps, I find them mildly terrifying. Then again, I'm an uggo.
So?I dont think youve met enough people in your life to pass comment on such things.
I don't.It seems these days that the social barriers have only grown immensely stronger in the past ten years, so I wanted to pose a question to anyone willing to talk about it, guys/girls/whatever. What do you do to meet new friends and lovers these days? Do you just go out and talk to some person on the street, ask for their number or to hang out? Is it just a work thing with co-workers and the occasional client/customer that meets you halfway in interest? What about a public setting like malls or bars, or jeez, the beach? Do you prefer just social media and dating apps? How do you make friends online then?
I wanted to get people's opinion and understanding on these types of issues, and if I'm just an odd person for feeling that way because it's something that I struggle with.
(I'm going to disregard school/college, should be obvious why)
Just start loudly explaining the Farms to everybody you meet, get really deep into the Julie Terryberry saga in an increasingly loud, strident babble and see where it goes. Fly, little bird!..but I wish there was like a dating app for friends that isn't full of guys looking for hookups regardless. Life is too lonely otherwise.
Well, definitely not the former in my case. As for the latter, the nail that sticks out gets fucking hammered good most of the time. Good thing to remember in general.I feel like around here everyone either came out the pussy with a group of 14 best friends already formed or is just trying to keep their head down and get through life without causing a stir.
This is a vibe I get a lot in those god forsaken Tik Tok compilations. Sometimes you see random thots lipsyncing or expressing a meme that requires some degree of insight into e-culture to actually understand, but they also look 8/10 and capable of putting on make-up. Even above-average normies might actually be broken on the inside despite their looks; something I've denied for years because it's just Stacy trying to go "haha im actually super sad on the inside too! Haha relateable! Where's Chad?".I feel like around here everyone either came out the pussy with a group of 14 best friends already formed or is just trying to keep their head down and get through life without causing a stir. Seriously, I remember my first year in college, right away all the freshmen were either roaming around and laughing in groups or just not talking to anyone... It's hard to fraternize either way and I miss having a best friend. He was the only person I could tell anything but we grew apart after graduation and eventually started getting on each other's nerves more than we got along. It happens sometimes but I wish there was like a dating app for friends that isn't full of guys looking for hookups regardless. Life is too lonely otherwise.
Yes, they are called normal people. I see no reason to talk to complete strangers unmotivated by anything. Just give your help as needed and walk away.Some people will think you are weird and give you the cold shoulder.
Just go talk to some people at places you know. You don't have to absolutely give up gaming if you can put up with the people there go to some local gaming store they usually do tournaments there sometimes. There are book clubs, board game meetings, and lots of other stuff to do. If all else fails just talk to people at events or something.
I've been involved with a board game meet for a couple of years now, and it's big enough that there are a fair number of women there now (although their datablity/fuckablity can be debatable).disclaimer: this doesn't help when your hobby or sport of choice is a massive sausage fest
you likely won't be meetiing any girls if your hobby is playing DnD at the local neckbeard dungeon, attending chess club meetings, or if you spend your time bashing other dudes faces in at the boxing gym
I know a friend like this. She was complaining about what a shitty life she has, but when I suggest getting a hobby or going out somewhere, she declines (to be fair, she has a family and medical situation that does cause difficulties).People who have difficulties finding friendship or romance are usually unmotivated, uninteresting and passive often accompanied by other character flaws. Self improvement is the key to finding new meaningful relationships if you are struggling to find any but willing to make some effort towards it.
What do you weirdos think I'm just walking up to every random person and talking to them?Yes, they are called normal people. I see no reason to talk to complete strangers unmotivated by anything. Just give your help as needed and walk away.
This site is my hobby, I already talk to you all. So I'm good then. You are all my new friends.Hobbies. You got to find a hobby and then find a forum or social media page that caters to that hobby in your area. My biggest hobby is on-road/off-road motorcycling. When I started, years and years ago, I found a forum that catered to my specific type of riding and found a large group of guys that I was able to ride and wrench with.
First year and I wound up breaking down about 300 miles from home. The only store in town didn't have the sprocket I needed, so I wound up sending a text to our group to ask if anyone knew of another model bike that had a comparable sprocket. When that proved pointless, I said I would be renting a truck to get back home.
One guy said fuck that and drove 300 miles to get me in his own truck. Wouldn't let me pay for fuel. I know we like to shit on people here, but fuck me, you can make really good friends if you go out and try.
The last time I did that it turned into a full-on tragedy and I left like, an hour in, thinking to myself : I'd rather be home and do anything else besides listening to these obnoxious people I have nothing in common with".