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Mods have made the reasonable request that the parade in the Nick Bates thread not be rained on. I agree - his victims can breath a sigh of relief that he will no longer be a threat.

But this isn't about Nick. This is about Anna, or @Ancani. Anna has been a forum regular for a while now commenting on both Tumblr and her history with Nick. She has had a relationship with Nick since 2006 when she was 13, roleplaying with him online and sending letters to one another. In 2008 she realized Nick wasn't entirely sane, though it took her another year to consider cutting off contact with him.

By 2013 her relationship with Nick had begun to get retconned. No one can fault a young girl for making a bad decision. One can, however, fault that girl for the actions they took after it. Anna has frequently claimed she is being stalked and harassed by a man so enfeebled by his mental illnesses he would not leave his house for weeks at a time. She was in fear for her life from a man that only had internet access for a few hours a month, and even though he had panic attacks riding the bus there was still fear from 3600 miles away.
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Even as she wished to stay safe and be left alone, she continued to talk about Nick - as recently as 2015 here and on Tumblr. She had every opportunity to be proactive by changing screen names and setting her accounts to friends only - measures that were never taken despite wondering in Nick's thread about the likelihood of a protective order she never applied for.

Lest you wonder where the funny is, Anna is triggered by a great number of things - such as men who can never find her and Homestuck (which should trigger everyone by being an unfunny mess).
This, this, this.

I have a pretty genuine trigger regarding stalking--specifically, stalking and fetishizing people being portrayed as romantic, because that's exactly what Nick did to me. Shit like that causes me to go straight into panic mode. And stalking would be a reasonable thing to hope people would tag for...but what makes me especially panicky is, of all fucking things, ships. As in fictional pairings. There's a specific Homestuck ship that is frequently shown as "cute" or "sweet" among fans, despite it being portrayed as a stalker-y situation that the girl wanted no part of in canon, and that one freaks me out so badly that I can't see fanart without wanting to vomit. It causes me to flash back to everything that fucker did and said.

So yeah, I'd argue that it's a pretty genuine trigger in the classical sense for me, and while I recognize that it's an irrational and ridiculous response, I'm also not sure how I'd be able to expose myself to a goddamn ship in a controlled environment. But I'm also fairly sure that most people who dislike the ship don't have the response I have, and just don't care for it for whatever reason. I've got plenty of shit I don't care for personally, but I don't expect everyone to tag for it.

And while I do ask people I'm friends with on Tumblr to tag that ship, I can't--and shouldn't--expect that everyone will. It'd be nice if people did, but saying "literally everyone in the fandom MUST tag this ship because ONE person has panic attacks over it" is unreasonable.

Sorry for rambling, but yeah. Part of the issue is that the term "trigger" has become, as others have mentioned, meaningless on Tumblr, which is a problem for those who have actual triggers. It's the same reason I think nounself types are harmful to the tranny community. I think that if someone's first encounter with something serious is with someone treating it like some cutesy accessory (which is what Tumblr does with triggers, IMO), they're gonna be less likely to treat it as a serious issue.

(For what it's worth, I think the shift towards calling things "content warnings" instead of "trigger warnings" is helpful, especially since some things could reasonably squick people out without being a personal trigger for them. And the concept of "squicks" in fandom is one that needs to come back into vogue, IMO.)

There are over 2500 pages on her current tumblr which I'll even admit is a pretty good deterrent for discovery. Pan for gold among the dirt my friends.
http://damaramegido.tumblr.com/

edit: rewrote the OP to be much less inflammatory and more informative.
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