Love Questing and Dating Eduction -

[Holdek]

There's already a thread on what people look for in a partner, but I noticed in chat a decent amount of discussion is about how to get dates. So, what are your strategies and tactics? Do you go to bars, use dating sites, have mutual friends set you up? What works for you, and what are your challenges?

This thread is for all genders and sexual orientations.

 

[Zekesman]

On my third day of work at a cellshop I tried flirting with this hot guy while replacing his SIM card. I didnt get much further than "Cool phone you have there." and he nodded and smiled "I know right." So yeah, I suck with guys.
Girls its a bit different. I mostly meet people online and we just talk about regular stuff to test the waters. Then I ask them on a date and if they want to, we'll go. Mostly it starts with cinema movies cuz thats an easy way to be around someone and get used to them without actually having to interact constantly (eyes on the screen). After that we start dating at nice and interesting spots and just talk about stuff.

Sex happens on the third date. Its basically promised! (No.)

 

[EI 903]

Internet. It works and it's a quick way to weed out the nutters and people you have instant deal-breakers with.

 

[Dr. Meme]

Here's what i do
1) Put on your best and snazziest looking trenchcoat and remember to brush your teeth
2) Walk up to any group of women
3) Ease the silence by quoting one of your favorite memes
4) Ask any of the women if they want to date, preferably the most sexy one (be sure to say out loud which one that is, women love that)
5) Be sure to tell them that you're not a rapist or murderer, it'll help them feel more comfortable
6) Give them an upfront gift, like a can of soda or an anime poster to show that you have a large disposable income
7) Collect the numbers

So far it hasn't worked but my mom says if i'm persistent then maybe these bitches will understand how great I am

 

[Zim]

I mostly just write my intentions on signs and hang out at places women go a lot like grocery stores, lingerie shops, and places where cleaning supplies are sold and then sit for hours with the sign visible until the ladies approach me with their flirty and fun double takes. It works every time.

 

[Cute Anime Girl]

Here's what i do

3) Ease the silence by quoting one of your favorite memes

Would it be better if I acted it out instead?

 

[Globe]

Eh, I don't personally feel there's an approach that necessarily guarantees success or failure. Met most of the girls I've dated through mutual friends which I kind of think is best since it forgoes the awkwardness of having to randomly solicit somebody, but I've also done random social scene hookups as well. I live in a college town that's got a relatively active night-life/party scene, so meeting people isn't particularly difficult, especially when there's alcohol involved.

Although I don't really have an objection to or problem with the internet, I don't really bother with it. Bout the closest I came was randomly asking a girl I had a mutual friend with on Facebook for a date. It was okay, but didn't go anywhere beyond a few dates.

 

[The Joker]

Here's what i do
1) Put on your best and snazziest looking trenchcoat and remember to brush your teeth
2) Walk up to any group of women
3) Ease the silence by quoting one of your favorite memes
4) Ask any of the women if they want to date, preferably the most sexy one (be sure to say out loud which one that is, women love that)
5) Be sure to tell them that you're not a rapist or murderer, it'll help them feel more comfortable
6) Give them an upfront gift, like a can of soda or an anime poster to show that you have a large disposable income
7) Collect the numbers

So far it hasn't worked but my mom says if i'm persistent then maybe these bitches will understand how great I am

Get a cool fedora!
I have a hard time with relationships I guess since I am always being told that I am too quiet. I would like someone who doesn't mind that and I can just relax around. Dating isn't really important to me, I love my various jobs and like spending my free time relaxing with a book.

 

[Some JERK]

Aside from looks, people are attracted to confidence, competence, intelligence, humor, and emotional stability. Generally speaking, the easiest way I've ever found to connect with others is to be in an environment where these qualities (in whatever quantities you might posses them.) are easily and naturally displayed. Bars are good for confidence and humor (alcohol is fun.) but not so much the rest (especially intelligence and emotional stability). I've never been on a dating website, so I don't know about that. Work and school are good if you're comfortable at your job/coursework and around other people in general. It's clichéd, but the best thing to do is actually to be yourself, do things you like and are good at (and do them around other people) and the chances are good that someone will take notice of you and a bond will form.

also, looking after your overall health and physical appearance is a good idea. Just stay away from people in the gym who are obviously looking to hook up. (Because reasons.)

 

[Da Pickle Monsta]

I'm married so I haven't had to go on the old lovequest for quite some time, but . . .

. . . the majority of the women I've dated, to include my wife, were introduced to me by another acquaintance. I basically networked my way into marital bliss.

 

[Watcher]

I would've named this thread "Dating education". After... you know
http://www.sonichu.com/cwcki/Dating_education

Anyway while I have dated on the internet I get really annoyed at how challenging it is to go from just politely talking to a woman to her accepting a date from you. Usually in these circumstances I tend to resort to asking out a girl irl.

Which tends to work. As long as I'm into a girl I can usually muster enough confidence to ask her out.

 

[cypocraphy]

The ladies usually come after me...soooo...can't really give any advice.

 

[hm yeah]

a perk of being gay is it's really easy to talk to the same sex.

too early to say how things are going where i am. but i hope something happens.

 

[klystron]

I look for a partner who is also my wife, because divorce is really expensive.

 

[Zekesman]

a perk of being gay is it's really easy to talk to the same sex.

too early to say how things are going where i am. but i hope something happens.

It seems very difficult for me cuz I don't know if the other guy is gay too or would try to beat me up.

 

[klystron]

It seems very difficult for me cuz I don't know if the other guy is gay too or would try to beat me up.

Both is also a possibility!

 

[Clown Doll]

As far as dates go, I'll try to steer it to an activity that involves some degree of interaction like grabbing a coffee or something to eat so I can get to know the girl I'm interested in but I'm yet unsure if I want to get involved with romantically. Especially in the beginning phases of the relationship I generally try to avoid making things overly "romantic" too soon and adjust to it as if she was just my friend so I can defuse the relationship without things getting too awkward if we find out we're not compatible(or she has a boyfriend!) and possibly can stay friends afterwards. Going to see movies together is kind of a no-no for me because it involves no interaction with the other person, maybe a comedy at her place but no theater experiences or anything that involves just sitting silent for the whole duration of it. Heck, I don't even enjoy much going into movie theathres with friends so it'd be doubly out of question in case of a date unless she specifically requested it.
So a tl;dr how I want to design my dates :

• Activity that both enjoy.
• No faux-romantic foo-fahh.
• Room for interaction and a relaxed atmosphere.
• Ask her first what she'd like to do but have a few scenarios in mind as a backup if they don't have anything in mind.

 

[Holdek]

I would've named this thread "Dating education". After... you know
http://www.sonichu.com/cwcki/Dating_education

Good idea; I've added that to the title.

 

[Glaive]

Wear a mask and then take it off in a dramatic fashion

 

[Cute Anime Girl]

Wear a fedora and then take it off in a dramatic fashion