As far as blues go, is there some kind of label or other indicator of which blues won't wake the wife/kids/neighbours?Then you probably don't care about not receiving tactile feedback from your board when one plays fps.
The most common and the entry level switches are Cherrys and Gaterons. They both have a similar naming convention:
Wanna feel a little bump when the key is activated? - browns (tactile)
Wanna feel no bump? - reds (linear)
Wanna feel a little bump and hear a loud noise? - blues (clicky)
There's a lot more to switches, but they always fall under tactile, linear, and clicky.
If you're not sure (which is reasonable) you can grab a hotswap board that allows you to just pull out and push in different switches (switches on its own are super cheap). If you're on a budget, I recommend Keychron keyboards as they are alright, wireless, and run for $80. If you're not, the GMMK is a nice starterboard, it's starts $110, has rgb LEDs, better build quality than keychron, and you can customize it a bit before you buy.