Jay, did you ever play Final Fantasy VII?
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I don't think he's coming back for a while, but that's just my guess. Also, it's funny that he's managed to turn this into some sort of about-me/introduction thread.
Well, I hate to break the news, but we did try to help you. We explained what you did wrong, and tried to tell you how to change that.
You didn't listen. It's your own fault.
You didn't listen. It's your own fault.
I'll admit it, I'm ashamed of calling Shera a fucking shithead.
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Catching up on YouTube videos? Does it really take a long time to people sperg about vidya or whatever?
You know, the cwcki knows and i know you're never going to change because your ego is far beyond reparation. You're so set in your ways that theres nothing anyone could say that would ever change your mind, and no event no matter how traumatic you make it out to be, will ever change you either. So lets get to the real reason you came here, which is what i would like to know. What's the point?
I sent him a comment that he needs to get his ass back here and address the people who complied with his demands of listing what we're ashamed of.
I'm not holding my breath.
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Am I too late for Jay's questions?
I'm 23, and I'm ashamed that I like redheads and pointy guitars, and that's two things I have in common with Jay.
I'm 23, and I'm ashamed that I like redheads and pointy guitars, and that's two things I have in common with Jay.
Actually, I have to disagee.
There would be catastrophic repercussions for GK if his mother suddenly started treating him as anything less than the uber-special snowflake and *gasp* asked him to maybe do some chores around the house or something.
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It wouldn't bother me if he was just some dumb kid living in his delusions. This is why I don't dislike people like Chris, Pixy, TJ, Wogglebug and Iconoclast. They're harmless weirdos and I want to see them, despite all odds, succeed in life.
Then we get into Nick Bate territory where you see these people expressing dangerous compulsions, and you kinda feel like you have to intervene somehow. I feel like Jay's been raised even worse than Chris was. At least Chris' parents had some values that they instilled in him, even if they were a bit old fashioned, and even Chris grew up and was able to form his own opinions counter to them. Jay's just been left out in the wild by his dad, and coddled into a weakling puddle by his mom. He's a kid without any real values to speak of; he's all id and no superego. Or some weird mutation of these things where he really thinks that his id IS his superego. "I want to do this, so it must be right."
My hopes for Jay:
- that he learns the difference between a normal relationship and an abusive, manipulative one. The fact that he still doesn't understand that trying to "mold someone" and making them compete for his love is abusive is scary. He also doesn't understand the difference between sexual sadism and just fucking killing and hurting things, which is also scary and has the potential to end really, really poorly.
- that he takes an objective view of himself and the way he's chosen to seek fame. He's not a good artist and he has no natural talent at art, but I feel like anyone can learn if they try hard enough. Dude's lazy, though. And that fame isn't a goal; it's generally a side-effect of creating something great. But there are a lot of steps in between.
- that he's still just a dumb kid, but he has a lot of time to grow up. May he look back at this in ten years and feel intense, but very informative, regret.
Ultimately, if none of this has had an impact on him yet, it really never will. Dude's gotta find his own way, and that's great. I just really hope that he doesn't hurt anyone else along the way.
Then we get into Nick Bate territory where you see these people expressing dangerous compulsions, and you kinda feel like you have to intervene somehow. I feel like Jay's been raised even worse than Chris was. At least Chris' parents had some values that they instilled in him, even if they were a bit old fashioned, and even Chris grew up and was able to form his own opinions counter to them. Jay's just been left out in the wild by his dad, and coddled into a weakling puddle by his mom. He's a kid without any real values to speak of; he's all id and no superego. Or some weird mutation of these things where he really thinks that his id IS his superego. "I want to do this, so it must be right."
My hopes for Jay:
- that he learns the difference between a normal relationship and an abusive, manipulative one. The fact that he still doesn't understand that trying to "mold someone" and making them compete for his love is abusive is scary. He also doesn't understand the difference between sexual sadism and just fucking killing and hurting things, which is also scary and has the potential to end really, really poorly.
- that he takes an objective view of himself and the way he's chosen to seek fame. He's not a good artist and he has no natural talent at art, but I feel like anyone can learn if they try hard enough. Dude's lazy, though. And that fame isn't a goal; it's generally a side-effect of creating something great. But there are a lot of steps in between.
- that he's still just a dumb kid, but he has a lot of time to grow up. May he look back at this in ten years and feel intense, but very informative, regret.
Ultimately, if none of this has had an impact on him yet, it really never will. Dude's gotta find his own way, and that's great. I just really hope that he doesn't hurt anyone else along the way.
Jay, on the off chance that you're still here and are actually reading this, please let me tell you a story about myself.
I was in an abusive relationship for almost three years. My partner never hit me or physically threatened me, but he loved to control me and guilt me into doing things he wanted. I strongly suspect that the only reason he ever went out with me in the first place was because he loved the thrill of lording over a disabled woman. He would do things like carry me places, help me get dressed despite the fact that I've been doing it myself for years, and encourage me to move around in the wheelchair I sometimes have to use. Stupid ol' me thought it was kind of romantic at the time because I mistakenly believed that he was someone I could rely on for help, but then he started doing things like laughing at my odd gait and telling me I was lucky to have him because no one else would ever find a cripple beautiful. Dropped that asshole like a bag of hot rocks after my friends knocked some sense into my head over the course of several months. Nowadays, he pesters me on Facebook and runs a white supremacist blog from his shitthole apartment in the boondocks. He also tries to guilt me into coming back to him by cutting his wrists and sending me photos of the wounds.
My point is that an abusive relationship isn't just characterized by physical or sexual violence. There's an element of control not seen in healthy relationships, and your relationship with Heather was a textbook example. You don't seem any different now. What you may see as romantic and loving is creepy and controlling to most normal people. You want to mold your partner into someone they're not while changing nothing about yourself.
And for the love of God, please don't use pornography as a guide for sex. If real life sex were anything like porn sex, men could keep it up for hours and women could reach orgasm by brushing their elbows together. This is especially true for BDSM, which can potentially be dangerous for uninformed participants. There's nothing wrong with having a few kinks. Everyone does. Your problem is that you can't separate fantasy from reality, and try to force your fantasies onto other people without any regard for their feelings or desires.
Please, seek professional help. There's absolutely no shame in it. It can go a long way when it comes to your problems with empathy.
Fuck it, I'll bite.
I'm 40 going on 1452. My biggest regret was stomping the Shadowlord into paste and tossing his pansy ass back into the dark abyss he slithered out of. Sure felt good, but I kind of screwed over humanity in the process. Plus I might have slaughtered a few children somewhere down the line. The last five years have kind've been a blur.
Also, as someone with a 10-year-old daughter, I can tell you right now that you would be talking to the business end of my Phoenix Spear if you ever went anywhere near her feet. My Yonah's way too young for a boyfriend, and even if she wasn't, she deserves someone a lot more loving and respectful than you.
I was in an abusive relationship for almost three years. My partner never hit me or physically threatened me, but he loved to control me and guilt me into doing things he wanted. I strongly suspect that the only reason he ever went out with me in the first place was because he loved the thrill of lording over a disabled woman. He would do things like carry me places, help me get dressed despite the fact that I've been doing it myself for years, and encourage me to move around in the wheelchair I sometimes have to use. Stupid ol' me thought it was kind of romantic at the time because I mistakenly believed that he was someone I could rely on for help, but then he started doing things like laughing at my odd gait and telling me I was lucky to have him because no one else would ever find a cripple beautiful. Dropped that asshole like a bag of hot rocks after my friends knocked some sense into my head over the course of several months. Nowadays, he pesters me on Facebook and runs a white supremacist blog from his shitthole apartment in the boondocks. He also tries to guilt me into coming back to him by cutting his wrists and sending me photos of the wounds.
My point is that an abusive relationship isn't just characterized by physical or sexual violence. There's an element of control not seen in healthy relationships, and your relationship with Heather was a textbook example. You don't seem any different now. What you may see as romantic and loving is creepy and controlling to most normal people. You want to mold your partner into someone they're not while changing nothing about yourself.
And for the love of God, please don't use pornography as a guide for sex. If real life sex were anything like porn sex, men could keep it up for hours and women could reach orgasm by brushing their elbows together. This is especially true for BDSM, which can potentially be dangerous for uninformed participants. There's nothing wrong with having a few kinks. Everyone does. Your problem is that you can't separate fantasy from reality, and try to force your fantasies onto other people without any regard for their feelings or desires.
Please, seek professional help. There's absolutely no shame in it. It can go a long way when it comes to your problems with empathy.
Fuck it, I'll bite.
I'm 40 going on 1452. My biggest regret was stomping the Shadowlord into paste and tossing his pansy ass back into the dark abyss he slithered out of. Sure felt good, but I kind of screwed over humanity in the process. Plus I might have slaughtered a few children somewhere down the line. The last five years have kind've been a blur.
Also, as someone with a 10-year-old daughter, I can tell you right now that you would be talking to the business end of my Phoenix Spear if you ever went anywhere near her feet. My Yonah's way too young for a boyfriend, and even if she wasn't, she deserves someone a lot more loving and respectful than you.
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So I finally caved and made an account here...
Because whatever I'll answer this. I have a problem with viewing people as useful or not useful; I would drop people just like that out of my life when their "usefulness" ended. Pretty shitty thing to do obviously. Once I confronted myself and asked myself why I was doing it (defense mechanism) and made an active effort to NOT do it I got a lot better - its still shameful to me because to this day I'll think like that once in a while if I don't stop myself.
Speaking of shames, I really don't know why he cares about our shames. I think his self-insight is something that might be affected by Autism (based on what I know from undergrad psych anyway), and therefore we're just talking about something he can't understand well - us having insight into ourselves. Therapy like Applied Behavior Analysis and cognitive-behavioral therapy could target issues like self-awareness, social shortcomings, and empathy. For his own sake he should seriously consider seeing a professional even though it's pretty clear he won't. Therapy has been backed by years of refinement and research, yet he thinks talking to people he regards as hostile is a better solution...
Because whatever I'll answer this. I have a problem with viewing people as useful or not useful; I would drop people just like that out of my life when their "usefulness" ended. Pretty shitty thing to do obviously. Once I confronted myself and asked myself why I was doing it (defense mechanism) and made an active effort to NOT do it I got a lot better - its still shameful to me because to this day I'll think like that once in a while if I don't stop myself.
Speaking of shames, I really don't know why he cares about our shames. I think his self-insight is something that might be affected by Autism (based on what I know from undergrad psych anyway), and therefore we're just talking about something he can't understand well - us having insight into ourselves. Therapy like Applied Behavior Analysis and cognitive-behavioral therapy could target issues like self-awareness, social shortcomings, and empathy. For his own sake he should seriously consider seeing a professional even though it's pretty clear he won't. Therapy has been backed by years of refinement and research, yet he thinks talking to people he regards as hostile is a better solution...
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I think he was trying to make us confess that we are just as fucked up as him with our own life problems. Thus, as we are no better than him, what right do we have to be jerks and bullies to him doing whatever the fuck he wants?
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