Personality Disorders? -

[HighlyKoalified]

Does anyone have any experience dealing with folks with personality disorders? If so what was it like?

I am fortunate in not really having to deal with them, though I hear they are underdiagnosed!

Has anyone dealt with bordeline? What are those folks like? I know narcssism and sociopathy pretty well ( both are highly charming yet totally self centered and unconcernd with others pain/feelings) borderlin tho... I have a hard time wrapping my head around

 

[The_Hissing_Vigilant]

My sister-in-law and aunt probably have it. Undiagnosed but it's for sure. Family was saying "I think she has bi-polar....so does auntie..." I said "no that's going a little too far. It seems like borderline" if it was bi-polar they would have been in and put of Psych wards by now. Here is my experience of visiting my uncle, aunt and grandma.

Of course there are mood swings, manipulation, hot-cold, immature behaviour, Chris-like tantrums etc. But here are some things I will elaborate here.

Major league butt-hurt:
Stayed at Grandpas house for the weekend. They (borderline aunt) abruptly left because Grandpa cracked a joke about my cousins long hair. She packed up and left and held a grudge against him for months. Over this old guys joke.
Nobody can say anything negative or else she flips out. She will find a way so she can have a reason for flipping out. It's walking on eggshells. It's lol-cow kind of reactions. You can't win. A video this would be kind of funny, but it's not funny actually be in in the midst if it.

Disorganized, disruptive and controlling:
My aunt. We had Christmas at her house last year. Dinner was hours late and served cold. It was depressing. An Christmas dinner with no warm food, like mashed potatoes and hot gravy. We had to throw part of the food out because they went soggy after those hours. She cannot coordinate anything for shit. She is very demanding. Hot-cold behaviour. Extremely hypocritical. Her and the cousins are up all night, all summer long with the wii and the surround sound system. Grandma has band hearing but even she can hear he arguments upstairs. She is very unpunctual and disorganized. Shows up late and than gets upset and offended because everybody else did not wait for her. Demands and barks orders but she doesn't even know what she wants. Forgetting the epi-pen for her severe peanut allergy child. Packing at the last minute. Waiting until the last minute.
She is always micromanaging everything. Disrupting with her "help". She provokes emotional outbursts with the children. Hovers and crowds them too much and than emotionally withdrawals. Cousins will be just fine on their own doing their homework and than she comes along and than all of a sudden drama breaks out. I hear crying and screaming from downstairs.

Guilt tripping:
I visits my grandma. My brother and nephew also came. My aunt came downstairs and said "YOU HAVE OTHER GRANDCHILDREN!"

Hypocrisy:
She wore these wooden shoes that clunked on the hardwood floor. No tongue of how my grandma and her guests thought about that. Would not listen if you asked her kindly. Belittles grandma for her 26" TV in her bedroom as being "too loud" but no thought of her surround sound and wood shoes. Whenever I would go over their. It's always like that. All that noise. I would lose sleep and even get delirious from missing sleep. I a huge tantrum one time. I just could not take it. She threw a tantrum on Boxing Day when all the family was over.....but if anyone else gets fed up with her antics and pulls their hair and screams, she threatens to call the cops.

It's very dysfunctional. Not enough to be a severe mental illness like bipolar or scitzopherenia. Not always enough to lock someone up.

 

[klystron]

I deal with everyone on the CWCKI forums.

 

[StallChaser]

I deal with everyone on the CWCKI forums.

Dealing with them IRL is completely different. I cut anyone out of my life that starts a bunch of drama. I've gotten pretty good at avoiding it. Online, I watch and laugh.

 

[klystron]

Dealing with them IRL is completely different. I cut anyone out of my life that starts a bunch of drama. I've gotten pretty good at avoiding it. Online, I watch and laugh.

This will sound sexist, but all the drama in my life has always been due to wimminz.

 

[Da Pickle Monsta]

I'm sure that 99% of the population can be diagnosed with a personality disorder, learning disorder, or emotional disturbance. And then that remaining 1% would get slapped with a disorder for being too perfect.

 

[hm yeah]

hey what do you call that one where you quit emotionally developing at 14 years old, because i've met a few people over 60 who are trans-14yearold-kin. unfortunately i'm related to some of them. maybe that's why i'm so young at heart.

 

[Da Pickle Monsta]

hey what do you call that one where you quit emotionally developing at 14 years old

50% of the American populace.