It was a year or something ago and I did not comment, so I wouldn't be able to find it. But there were a few reasons what I saw in this particular thread made me uncomfortable, one being the behavior of the op in the comments. But the problem presented was actually not that, it's just what had been latched on to. It had to do with a conversation with his family where it was brought up, and was he the asshole in his reaction. For what it's worth, every person who judged the actual question agreed that he was overwhelmingly the asshole based on how he described the conversation.