It's pretty telling about how childish he is that anyone who bursts the bubble of his fantasy automatically becomes his enemy, whether it's a longtime friend or even a family member. His only priority in life is getting what he wants with no one telling him "no" or making him follow any rules. I guarantee if his birth family had been rich and famous and got him an in with the entertainment industry, he wouldn't give his adopted family another thought. Remember what he said about his parents in his video to richard/Alison?Russ likely thought that his MEAN AWFUL ADOPTIVE FAMILY were so awful, telling him not to stalk girls in school or harass women in shops and that sometimes he’d have to SHARE with the other kids or wait his turn!
His REAL family would never do that! They’d love him! (Which is Russ’ mind means they’d do everything he wants, all the time with no pushback, because he’s a classic Narc, and literally believes True Love is a whore paid to suck his dick and shower him in praise.) Love, to Russell, is obedience and constant capitulation. Trying to tell him he’s wrong about anything means you don’t love him!
So Russ went along dreaming of the day he’d find his rich, influential Real Family and could ditch his stupid fake family that makes him follow rules and doesn’t understand what Taylor Swift did to him! In his letter, he claims to love his adoptive family, but then admits he dreamt for years, ever since childhood, of being a happy family with his bio parents. Those are not the words of a man satisfied with the family he has.
A classic trait of Narcissists is the belief and expectation that they belong somewhere better, among better people who will cater to them, simply because they’re so special and unique and brilliant and talented. They are constantly disappointed by the family and friends they have because no one can live up to the selfish, grandiose ideals they have about the friends and family they “deserve.”
No doubt this took the form of his fabled Real Family for Russ, and he figured as soon as he found them, Happiness and Riches and Fame would finally rain down on him. When that illusion was shattered and Russ was denied his fantasy, the blow to his narc ego was devastating. And ever since then, he’s been spiraling downward, trying to prove to the world that he deserves whatever he wants.
Russ is a man standing at the edge of a cliff with his trousers down, screaming at the world to suck his dick and tell him how great he is...then getting apoplectic with rage when the world laughs and says no.
"You don't understand his family. . . they're always. . . pushing. . ."
He definitely means that they try to keep him from the consequences of his own colossal ego and wild imagination. But in Russell's broken brain, they don't let him do what he wants with zero consequences, so they are worthless to him. Just like in his book, how he told his parents that he's "already lost everything," so his parents mean nothing to him.
The question of "is Russell a liar" is a hard one to answer, especially if you subscribe to the George Costanza school of thought, "It's not a lie if you believe it." We've seen Russell tell lies before, like his claim that Dani had AIDS, and then say he "stands by" his claims even after admitting he made them up. Or how he claimed everything in his book was 100% real even after admitting he made stuff in it up. When someone wrongs him, he feels justified in telling lies and expects everyone to think less of the person he's lying about regardless of if it's true or not. I think it's closer to doublethink than a lie, he knows it's untrue when he says it but acts as though it is true and eventually starts to believe his own BS. I think he rewrites history in his head (like how he turned the Ariana concert experience from the best night ever into calling her and her security bigots,) then starts to believe the lie after thinking of it. How many times has he said that Taylor's agents didn't understand that he was sending her his song as a gift, as if that mattered? It's not just a weak excuse, Russell is legitimately convinced that sending his song as a gift is the exception to the no unsolicited works policy. Why? Because he said so. If he knew he was full of shit he wouldn't try to bring so much attention to himself, yet he does.The more I think about it and read his ravings, the more I think Russ isn't so much a liar as he is flat-out delusional. I think in his head the Erika situation played out exactly like he said it did. Of course, here in the real world we know better, but I truly believe he thinks he did nothing wrong and she blew up on him for no reason. I think he reinterprets events through his lens of "I can do no wrong, people just don't understand my brilliance" so often that he's lost his already tenuous grip on reality. His actions to me demonstrate he really does think fame and fortune are right around the corner if people would just do what they're told. That's why he hates us so much because we post what he actually wrote and he can't edit it or toss it down the memory hole.
What's always been baffling about him for me is that he tells rewritten versions of what happened that he believes makes him look like a hero and an underdog, or tries to make us pity him and hate people for disability shaming him, yet even in his own version of events he comes across as a rude, incompetent idiot. Take his entire book for instance. To any sensible person, he comes across as a whiny, entitled, incompetent, selfish, rude, excuse-making self-pitying imbecile. But every word of that book was written with the intention of making you feel sorry for him and think of him as some great, brilliant visionary. This is the version of events that he thinks vindicates him, it's how he chose to tell the story, since it's the version he perceives as true. And it's such an important truth that he feels a need to share it with the entire world. And he's wrong on every level. It's just impossible to comprehend.
People who have known Russ and come here have said he makes excuses constantly, and given how vocal he is about blaming everyone but himself for everything, I do think he is totally incapable of accepting that he may be wrong or may be a bad person. It's like he can't internalize it as a possibility, so he comes up with some excuse or finds someone to blame, and then that becomes reality in his head. His victim complex plays into it, I think, he sees himself as the ultimate underdog in life so every time something bad happens it's never because of his own actions. Which is why he thinks people just don't understand him or haven't given him the chance to share his story, because his version of events is reality to him, so telling him he's wrong is like saying two plus two equals five.