Cram it in me, baby!
I always viewed gay dudes as "men who just so happen to like other men" due to growing up with a gay lifelong family friend behaving like a rational adjusted human being and keeping his shit in the bedroom. He had gatherings at his house that sometimes featured men who also happened to be gay. I cannot think of a single instance throughout my entire childhood/adolescence where I stopped and thought "man, what a bunch of fags." They treated my family with a very much shared respect I'd expect from any sane adult and returned my own in kind. It just wasn't a big deal. I had absolutely zero concept of gay/bi/lesbo shit being anything other than yet another bullet point on the list of "differences that didn't/shouldn't really matter in responsible adult society."
..Then I got out into the world on my own, and before more than a few fucking years went by I found myself going "Why the fuck do all these faggots make it so hard on themselves?"
Which leads into my reiterated question:
Why do you Schwartz-twisters and clam-clappers make it so goddamn hard on yourselves?
I'm not asking for your favorite blame target. I've had very long, very informative discussions on the blame game until the wee hours of the night. This is purely a question where you stay on your side of the rainbow and take inventory for a moment (hence the fairly open question).
I can't speak for what Pride was back in my day, but as of today, gay is more like performance art against the perceived evil of unchecked capitalism (c.f. the crash of '08.) It's become inundated with hipsters and suburbanites who are desperate to score more political brownie points on Facebook. Some are even Munchausen-by-proxy with their trans toddlers.
For the record, I completely agree. When you go out of your way to alienate yourself from your neighbors, you don't get to complain about how alienated you feel.