btw I've heard that Episcopal churches have tons of gay dudes. The higher up the candle (e.g., more lace and perfume) the more of them there are.I know it's not going to sound all that helpful but while luck is the main component, if you're looking for a relationship it is going to require an active concerted effort and it'll be slightly harder but not unfeasible without the apps.
I've met previous boyfreinds at social activities I picked to try partially because I was curious, but also because I thought there was a decent chance of there being other gay men who weren't what I would call "scream queens" there; Cooking classes, book clubs, art exhibits etc. Ultimately I didn't meet my significant other at these places, but I did get a few dates out of them. I can also attest personally that Church's are also rife with conservative learning gays. It makes no sense but Gay men are statistically far more likely to be active in religious organizations. I wouldn't date a theist personally, but two of my friends met their boyfriend and husband this way.
There are venues where conservative LGB congregate in significant numbers, but this is one area the danger hairs do have an edge over us; because we don't make being gay obvious sometimes we don't even pick each other up.
Not sure what your gaydar is like but picking up the cues helps. Crossing legs, having a social job like being a teacher/cop/nurse, total disinterest in sports; yes they're stereotypes and one or two alone doesn't necessarily mean anything (my partner is literally the least feminine person I've ever met) but since we lack a Grindr for non-nymphos it does help.
Just my two cents.
What do you mean by feminine lesbian? Like, 'I have long hair and I own more than one dress and I wear lipstick occasionally', or 'I dress like a sorority girl'? (Or 'Dita von Teese is my style icon'?) If you look like a straight girl it's going to be hard for you--everyone'll assume you're some twink's hag. Plus most lesbians aren't into that look, as you've noticed.Excluding WOKE fictional media, do lesbians have as much exposure as gay men and trannies these days?
every event in my town is swarmed with guys and troons. Even if I specifically look up the word lesbian. Are lesbo a minority or are they not as loud? Or are they less driven by their sexual desires as men thus have less insentive to put themselves out there? Genuinely interested.
Because, as a feminine lesbian who is attracted to feminine lesbians, I have very little to turn to these days with everything being swamped with dicks and girldick. my experience thus far has been that feminine lesbians are as rare as they are disinterested in fellow femmes lol. But even dykes are hard to come by these days
Going to LGBT specific events is a terrible way to meet a partner or make friends in 2019. The percentage of people at those events who are losers is high, even if they're not troons. Just do hobbies that other gay people also like and there they will be, and even if none of them want to date you they'll have single friends.