That's the thing. Grindr is a cesspit of gays who are so into specific types its rather irritating. NO FATS NO FEMS NO DARKIES LAWL but yet you get by because society considers you attractive like......it is stupid.
All online dating (yeah dating, lol) platforms are like that. Bears want a specific percentage of body hair and that fucking beard became mandatory these days, twinks want chads, chads want twinks and jocks, jocks want their balls drained by whatever impossible standard and body fat percentage before dropping it 99.9% down on a lazy saturday night. Fat guys might as well kill themselves or hope some weird chaser is in town. Being gay is no picnic but from what I hear from my straight friends it's still preferable to whatever collective mental illnesses possessed straight women these days.