Same, another reason why I was so adverse to the "stereotypical gays" was because being so deep in the closet made me homophobic; I wanted to just be "the good, normal kind, not a weird flamer" so people would leave me alone. I assume this is the motive for a lot of other gay people who act like this.
That's the thing. Grindr is a cesspit of gays who are so into specific types its rather irritating. NO FATS NO FEMS NO DARKIES LAWL but yet you get by because society considers you attractive like......it is stupid.
lol too fat and flaming to gat laid
It's hard for what you said, and the one who do seek a relationship. Tend to be the ugly and unstable ones no one wants to have anything with.
It's only homophobia if you show a distaste for someone being attracted to it's gender. I don't know if you are intentionally saying it, but you aren't magically something that can't choose if they want to be a troon or not. Just because you're gay. That's the real homophobia, and I'm sorry you got groomed into thinking this. Most gays are toxic and something you have to be very careful around.
And fems rather die than being together with another fem. It's quite ironic, they get mad af being for rejecting them for being fem. But nah, hell would freeze over before they go for another half troon like themselves
No, I don't agree. It's more complex than that and (for me and other people I talked to who used to act like this) it was both a distate for same-sex attraction AND cultural markers that people associate with being gay in general. As in like, "being gay is weird but if you act normal and aren't in-your-face about your lifestyle then you aren't as bad as THOSE kinds". I have no idea what troons have to do with this since modern trans issues are so different than the original focus of LGB rights before 2015 in America.
I don't even like straights that are in your face about it either. While you can disagree, it doesn't chance the true definition of homophobia. If you got a distaste for same-sex attraction, it's homophobia. Everything else is reddit-tier SJW material.
It will look like shit, men and women clothes have different cuts to suit the different bodies. Not going to necessarily say something, but I'm still judging the hell out of the fashion disaster.
Look, it’s rare, but I do know guys who can look great in a woman’s cut, and even then it’s not every single piece of woman’s clothes that they can pull off.
Same, which ironically made me more prone to the gender crit point that men are more sexually aggressive than women, which is fair enough. Most men aren't predators, but having gay men go after me aggressively and gay friends attempt that really turned me off the experience.
Stating preferences is biology at work - nothing more or less.
I think the issue is people having really specific standards when, for lack of a nicer way of putting it, can't meet standards themselves.
I disagree even there. Most guys I know who have those preferences offline (you know, in real life) are most the time (probably over 75%) are into a refelction of themselves.., Youngish.. sculpted body, good looks. This is basically "triablism" also at work. Granted, you are right, there are quite a few who set higher standards for themselves they cannot meet. Heck, I find myself wanting the porn star body. However, I'm not self absorbed enough to ignore my own shortcomings; I'm old and fat..but I'm 6'5" and still handsome. I will seek out guys who give me signals they are into me first.
Don't. You can say that, to paraphrase a quote by Ronald Reagan, "You didn't leave the LGBT community, the LGBT community left you".
You've got me paranoid now because a few people have commented that the other half & I look similar.
Don't panic, all Australians are secretly related.
