Hi, my pseudonym is NobleGreyHorse, I'm a two-time rape survivor, and I would like to ask -- not demand, merely ask for -- a self-enforced moratorium on the meme of Chris suffering prison rape, or of its being somehow deserved.
It's five years since the second one and with the help of some very specialized PTSD therapy, I'm able to talk about this shit online. However, it used to trigger the fuck out of me. I don't mean "upset," as in someone making nasty remarks at me because they think I cut them off in traffic. I mean "trigger" as in "big fucking flashbacks." There has just been an influx of new or returning board members in response to the last Facebook leak. We don't know who is out there who could actually be harmed -- not offended, I really mean harmed -- by treating rape like it's funny.
But this is a board for making fun of an autistic guy, you say. It is, in fact, a board for making fun of an autistic asshole who does and says things that are legitimately nasty, if largely harmless (except to Michael Snyder).
So doesn't that mean he deserves to lose his ass-virginity like Anna joked about? Fuck no. This means there are some circumstances in which you think rape is an okay punishment for the antics of an autistic manbaby. Or anyone. And while his skirt may be a tad short (see, I made a joke about it, I must be an acceptable survivor now), there is pretty much nothing anyone can do to legitimately deserve something that does in fact have the potential to fuck up the rest of your life. I'm lucky. I'm back at the point where I can have consensual sex with a man (it helps that, despite looking like a biker gang enforcer, he is absurdly gentle and kind toward me). Some survivors never get there. I still have a phobia based on one of the perps: white men on bicycles, especially in all that Spandex racing kit for srs-bzns cycling enthusiasts. This is deeply awkward around bicycle-patrol police, and although I rarely get invited overseas to watch the Tour de France up close, it is a completely useless phobia. Snakes can kill you; spiders can mess you up very badly; most white men on bicycles in my town are merely going to, or coming back from, the art school. Ooo, they could paint tiresome murals on my porch.
Chris's is a fragile psyche at best. Fantasy worlds as coping mechanisms. The inability to know when he's being taken advantage of, most recently by his own mother. You take this guy and you give him one of the worst traumas it is possible to survive, short of attempted murder (source: US Department of Justice), and what the fuck happens? There is nothing he has done that makes him deserve that. It's not a legitimate punishment. Shit, we can waterboard political prisoners of war in Guantanamo, but per the Geneva Convention, rape is right the fuck out. And if war criminals don't have to fear that, then Chris doesn't either.
In the past, Christorians have made jokes about Chris's "rapey" stare. And yeah, some of what he did to Megan could have been prosecuted as assault if she were less forgiving. This is all true. Chris, however, is already suffering from autism, probably depression, and we don't know what else, but definitely A Whole Bunch of Shit (tm). This is why Michael Snyder couldn't bring himself to put a felony record on him. By definition, he does not understand normal people or how to act normal, and even the CWCki has a bold-type disclaimer that the likelihood of his actually succeeding at raping someone is very, very low because of his physical condition.
I am not asking for top-down moderator censorship. I'm just asking for the board as a whole to chill with the jokes. They have now officially been made and any further iteration is pointless. We also don't need side debates about who is "rapeable." The truth is, it's everybody. Break your wrist (in my case, cycling with the perp)? Get prescribed huge painkillers? Lie down with your cast on the pillow hoping to fall asleep before you throw up? You gonna get raped (if you're married to the same sociopath I was). We want a "just world" theory where it happens in jail and to the Wrong Kind of Woman. And if you just follow these bullshit safety tips your auntie emailed you, and always get someone to walk you to your car, you can avoid it. Nope. It could happen to Chris in a group home.
And it would be way past not even funny. Come on. I thought people had more creativity.
It's five years since the second one and with the help of some very specialized PTSD therapy, I'm able to talk about this shit online. However, it used to trigger the fuck out of me. I don't mean "upset," as in someone making nasty remarks at me because they think I cut them off in traffic. I mean "trigger" as in "big fucking flashbacks." There has just been an influx of new or returning board members in response to the last Facebook leak. We don't know who is out there who could actually be harmed -- not offended, I really mean harmed -- by treating rape like it's funny.
But this is a board for making fun of an autistic guy, you say. It is, in fact, a board for making fun of an autistic asshole who does and says things that are legitimately nasty, if largely harmless (except to Michael Snyder).
So doesn't that mean he deserves to lose his ass-virginity like Anna joked about? Fuck no. This means there are some circumstances in which you think rape is an okay punishment for the antics of an autistic manbaby. Or anyone. And while his skirt may be a tad short (see, I made a joke about it, I must be an acceptable survivor now), there is pretty much nothing anyone can do to legitimately deserve something that does in fact have the potential to fuck up the rest of your life. I'm lucky. I'm back at the point where I can have consensual sex with a man (it helps that, despite looking like a biker gang enforcer, he is absurdly gentle and kind toward me). Some survivors never get there. I still have a phobia based on one of the perps: white men on bicycles, especially in all that Spandex racing kit for srs-bzns cycling enthusiasts. This is deeply awkward around bicycle-patrol police, and although I rarely get invited overseas to watch the Tour de France up close, it is a completely useless phobia. Snakes can kill you; spiders can mess you up very badly; most white men on bicycles in my town are merely going to, or coming back from, the art school. Ooo, they could paint tiresome murals on my porch.
Chris's is a fragile psyche at best. Fantasy worlds as coping mechanisms. The inability to know when he's being taken advantage of, most recently by his own mother. You take this guy and you give him one of the worst traumas it is possible to survive, short of attempted murder (source: US Department of Justice), and what the fuck happens? There is nothing he has done that makes him deserve that. It's not a legitimate punishment. Shit, we can waterboard political prisoners of war in Guantanamo, but per the Geneva Convention, rape is right the fuck out. And if war criminals don't have to fear that, then Chris doesn't either.
In the past, Christorians have made jokes about Chris's "rapey" stare. And yeah, some of what he did to Megan could have been prosecuted as assault if she were less forgiving. This is all true. Chris, however, is already suffering from autism, probably depression, and we don't know what else, but definitely A Whole Bunch of Shit (tm). This is why Michael Snyder couldn't bring himself to put a felony record on him. By definition, he does not understand normal people or how to act normal, and even the CWCki has a bold-type disclaimer that the likelihood of his actually succeeding at raping someone is very, very low because of his physical condition.
I am not asking for top-down moderator censorship. I'm just asking for the board as a whole to chill with the jokes. They have now officially been made and any further iteration is pointless. We also don't need side debates about who is "rapeable." The truth is, it's everybody. Break your wrist (in my case, cycling with the perp)? Get prescribed huge painkillers? Lie down with your cast on the pillow hoping to fall asleep before you throw up? You gonna get raped (if you're married to the same sociopath I was). We want a "just world" theory where it happens in jail and to the Wrong Kind of Woman. And if you just follow these bullshit safety tips your auntie emailed you, and always get someone to walk you to your car, you can avoid it. Nope. It could happen to Chris in a group home.
And it would be way past not even funny. Come on. I thought people had more creativity.
except worse because at least DIRTY CRAPPED BRIEFS actually happened (happens?) and has had some significance in CWCs life. Prison Rape is just an A-log fantasy (albeit a very real possibility).
