Maybe I'm reading this wrong but it sounds like the asexual Jay is the biological father:Seems like the opposite to me, actually. If this person is genuinely asexual, then they get no joy out of someone else raising the kid. And they also aren't fucking the woman, and the kid isn't his, it's the husband's.
So the wife wins, and because she's got some sort of non-sexual guy to pay attention to her, her husband also wins because he gets a fairly stable household with less chance of divorce or cheating.
The only one who wins nothing is the guy who basically babysits a kid and takes a girl clothes shopping for nothing. But I mean...I guess simps have to cope somehow.
Maybe, Jay thought, he could apply that creativity to the project of building a family—a permanent one—on his terms. Today, Jay is part of a three-parent family in northern California. He lives with a married couple, Avary Kent and Zeke Hausfather, and is not part of their marriage, but is a father to their biological daughter, Octavia, or Tavi, whose full name includes all three of their last names.