The Importance of Sex -

[Pikonic]

A little debate was brought up on a Chris thread so I made this in hopes the Chris thread stays about Chris.*

I think people can live perfectly enjoyable lives being asexual/celebate. Though I know the health and emotional benefits of having a regular sex life too.

Thoughts?

-Edited to clarify the poll options

*The thread got locked so I failed.

 

[The Hunter]

It used to be that I didn't place any importance on it outside of having children and prayed to God there was a woman out there who thought the same way, but lately, I've been thinking about it more. Like, a lot more. Good thing I have friends willing to put up with me.

I'd still place it at around two or three.

 

[GGGBYBYBY]

10 being the highest or lowest?

Either way, it's not that important really. Definitely not to the point of wishing yourself dead, becoming miserable (like OPL, the lovshies and the wizards) or actually killing yourself. Yeah sex is cool and all but there are other things in life which lead to fulfillment. Somebody doesn't want to touch your genitals. So what. I always thought having people who understand you for who you are was more important than sex alone.

Focusing on it too much is stupid because in reality nobody cares or actually knows if you are a virgin seeing as essentially it's a social construct. It's nice to have it regularly but it's certainly not the solution to all your problems. I think that the reason people are so bothered by it these days is the emphasis that the media puts on it. For women it's "too much makes you disgusting" and for men it's "too little makes you a loser" which is stupid really because there isn't any actual way to measure it and also the fact that at the end of the day it doesn't change who you are as a person. A loser is a loser, no matter how much they've had sex and the same goes for somebody disgusting.

 

[CatParty]

sex is great

 

[KatsuKitty]

This will mean different things to different people. Your perspective on this changes as you get older. I once thought that sex was entirely non-negotiable in a relationship, but I'm willing to accept if my partner's needs change, because I love them.

I don't think I'd be able to marry like that, though. And I definately wouldn't seek out a relationship like that from the start, it's more like something I'm not inflexible on if I love someone. It also depends on whether or not this is a need for them or some kind of inflexible religious ideology: I'm generally not the type to view religion as respectable, so I would pretty much reject not only their vow of chastity but also a lot of other things about them.

I'm not sure if an open relationship would be an effective workaround for anything like this either. One, because I have absolutely no social skills, it's as good as ineffective. Two, I mainly go for males in a purely sexual sense and a lot of gay males in casual encounters have HIV, so right away you lose the health benefits of a monogamous relationship.

 

[SlowInTheMinds]

I'd say 6. I consider it an achievement, but I wouldn't get all depressed and misogynistic over it unlike /r9k/ or the loveshys.

 

[Niachu]

Personally I put so little emphasis on sex, relationships and romance that it baffles me why people get so bent out of shape about it. After a long time I understood why it would affect many people so deeply since no one shares my life experiences or my brain chemistry but I put importance on other things like my education, my place in the world, my overall health, my cat, etc. I've been celibate all my life and it's never caused me any problems.

Also I still get grossed out by the idea of people kissing me or touching me so that has something to do with it.

 

[CatParty]

yeah kissing is gross

 

[c-no]

I put little importance on sex (I give it a 2). Really, I think it is important for pro-creation and for relationships between couples who do love each other, but as a single guy who is more concerned with more important things in life such as school, I don't find sex to be important.

 

[Grand Number of Pounds]

I'm a virgin without rage but I would like to get married some day, so I put it at a 2.

If I go out like Sir Isaac Newton (making many contributions to mankind, but never getting married or having sex) I wouldn't mind it so much.

 

[Pikonic]

I lost my virginity at 20 and it was the most meh thing ever. For some unknown reason I thought it'd be great, it kinda sucked.
As for the man who took my virginity he's long gone and I have someone who makes sex somewhat meaningful, but our relationship isn't about sex.
I guess my point it don't lose your virginity just for the sake of losing it. It's really not a big deal. If you feel socially criticized for it (you shouldn't), just don't bring it up and lie if you must.

 

[SlowInTheMinds]

I lost my virginity at 20 and it was the most meh thing ever. For some unknown reason I thought it'd be great, it kinda sucked.
As for the man who took my virginity he's long gone and I have someone who makes sex somewhat meaningful, but our relationship isn't about sex.
I guess my point it don't lose your virginity just for the sake of losing it. It's really not a big deal. If you feel socially criticized for it (you shouldn't), just don't bring it up and lie if you must.

Lying about it isn't even that hard (just don't overcompensate, it's awful).

If I understand science correctly (probably not), male virginity is 100% a social construct (if there was, masturbating for the first time would mean losing physical virginity). Female virginity is partially a social construct and also physical (not sure what the thing was called)

Originally I used to not care about sex (when I was 10 or something my annoying brother was spewing a constant stream of sex-related stuff until the point where I almost hated the concept of sex). But now I'm somewhat interested (but not as obsessed as he was at that point).

I do have this friend that gets this.. disgusted look on his face when the subject becomes sex (or a sex joke is uttered). He's 18. Me and a couple of other friends have had many discussions about him being asexual (his parents too, apparently)

 

[Holdek]

This will mean different things to different people. Your perspective on this changes as you get older.

It's also going to vary by gender. 50% of females have a lower sex drive than their male partner, 25% have a higher one, and 25% the same.

Also like I think monks for example would put it pretty low on the scale.

Personally my duck hungers for tom tom to pound but I also value other things and am an introvert so I'd put it at like a seven I guess. I think that's normal for a 30 year old JERK.

 

[Picklepower]

Different people place different values on sex, my thoughts? I dunno, I masturbate a lot, but when it comes to romance I wouldn't care about sex too much, I'm not having kids, so any sex I do would be for fun and not procreation. If I hook up with a guy that would be great, if I found a woman I would have to make sure she doesn't want children either. I would be ok living alone though, my main goal in life is to have peace, so I would be fine staying single.

 

[Bob's Fries]

Does my hand count as a partner? If so, I'm putting it on a 1.

 

[Bgheff]

China is pretty great.

 

[pickleniggo]

What context are we talking here? Just in general?
I don't know, I think sex is more important than a lot of people think. It's one of life's greatest motivators.

Relationship-wise, yes, of course. Sex is awesome if you do it right and well; I can't imagine being in a sexless relationship. How boring would that be?

 

[CatParty]

only one vote for 10? jesus.

 

[Holdek]

only one vote for 10? jesus.

CatParty not all of us are going on ihookup.com dates every night like you.

But yeah it's kind of strange that the biggest response is 1. Lot of got dang asexuals here or maybe just low libidos. Maybe I'll post some porn to get people horny.

 

[Grand Number of Pounds]

They're putting saltpeter in our food again