The Importance of Sex -

[cypocraphy]

I think love and monogamy are man-made ideas and I don't look down on people that have lots of casual sex, or one night stands. BUT...I don't look down on people who have so-called "unsuccessful" sex lives either. Everybody is different, do what works for you.

 

[Holdek]

I don't look down on people that have lots of casual sex, or one night stands.

I look down on sluts though.

 

[Something Vague]

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Kinda ironic that he's singing it in Japan which has a low birth rate and a high number of asexuals (according to statistics).

 

[cheersensei]

Being married, sex is on a sliding scale for myself. Sometimes it's high up there, sometimes it's just a weak passing want. My husband sometimes cannot keep up with me, and others, he's just as aloof as I am. When we first met, sex was a high priority, mostly due to me wanting to be rid of my virginity. Now, with the addition of trying for a baby, things are getting mixed around.

We've opened our relationship to another couple, though most of the time it's with the male partner, as his girlfriend is generally not available at most times. It's given us an opportunity to explore within our boundaries.

 

[Pine Tar]

4 for me, used to be a 9. You see, I used to be one of those "nice guys" until a few years ago. When I realized that I had to get my shit together in order to even have a shot at sex, I got a job and eventually moved out of my parents' house. By that time, I (at least I hope), became a guy who was genuinely decent and the importance of sex went way down. It's not like I haven't been offered sex, it's just I want to make my first time meaningful

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even if only lasts 30 seconds

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[Sweet and Savoury]

I dunno I feel sex is a central part of any relationship. Without it you just have a really good friend, and sooner or later your going to meet someone who really Rogers's your Hammerstein.

Then you have cheating and all the ugly impacts...

I feel that sex is just like any other part of the relationship and requires a little bit of work to keep it healthy and growing.

 

[Foulmouth]

I don't look down on people that have lots of casual sex, or one night stands.

I look down on sluts though.

Not a fan of cowgirl then ?

 

[RV 229]

Voted a six, mainly because it's a luxury. Individually, we don't need sex to survive. However, it is higher on the list of things I want out of life. This is going to be subjective though, because everybody is different.

 

[The Dude]

Sex isn't a big deal for me and I laugh at people like Chris and Lovshys who make it out to be this world shattering, life altering thing. After my first time I never wanted to have it again. Now Mrs. Dude wants it more than I do. I'm usually too damn tired and our schedules don't mesh up that well because I work graves.

 

[BT 075]

It's pretty much the most powerful feeling in the world to have sex with someone you love. To make love to that person. Anyone can fuck someone. You can fuck a million people in one night stands or meaningless, purely physical relationships. But to have sex with someone you truly love the living daylights out of... that's a beautiful thing. I've had sex several times before I ever made love. I find it... a lot less selfish, a lot more enduring. It gives me a sense of safety that sex with a random girl would not give me. I've had sex before and amazing as I felt during... afterwards all I wanted to do was leave. Now with my girlfriend, after it's done we just cuddle a bit and I don't have the urge to leave the bed. Rather, I feel like I could stay in it forever.

I think ever since I have been in a serious relationship, the importance of sex, for me, has become a lot higher. Where it used to be maybe a six or a seven, it's now a ten. As I am in a long distance relationship we sometimes have to wait for months before we can be with each other. It sure makes the times we do get to do it, a thousend times more special. Sex is very important for me as a person, but it's not for everyone. For me it's the best way to start a day, and the best to end it. And a fun activity to spend your time on inbetween.

 

[KatsuKitty]

It's pretty much the most powerful feeling in the world to have sex with someone you love. To make love to that person. Anyone can fuck someone. You can fuck a million people in one night stands or meaningless, purely physical relationships. But to have sex with someone you truly love the living daylights out of... that's a beautiful thing. I've had sex several times before I ever made love. I find it... a lot less selfish, a lot more enduring. It gives me a sense of safety that sex with a random girl would not give me. I've had sex before and amazing as I felt during... afterwards all I wanted to do was leave. Now with my girlfriend, after it's done we just cuddle a bit and I don't have the urge to leave the bed. Rather, I feel like I could stay in it forever.

I think ever since I have been in a serious relationship, the importance of sex, for me, has become a lot higher. Where it used to be maybe a six or a seven, it's now a ten. As I am in a long distance relationship we sometimes have to wait for months before we can be with each other. It sure makes the times we do get to do it, a thousend times more special. Sex is very important for me as a person, but it's not for everyone. For me it's the best way to start a day, and the best to end it. And a fun activity to spend your time on inbetween.

I never had the social grace to do anything but "make love" and I guess I'm not really missing anything from the sound of it. The only time I ever have been with someone was with someone I loved and cared about.

 

[Charon]

Since losing 3 girlfriends in a row (only one of whom I had anything close to a sexual relationship with, and those were pity fucks) and discovering that I am pretty much incapable of maintaining a relationship due to several assburgers and education failure-related factors, I've put zero importance on it. I have near zero sex drive and will likely never contribute to society or the human race.

Also, sex is gross and only for making babies in my opinion.

 

[Foulmouth]

I think sex is great when you're having it, even better when it's with someone you love, but not worth stressing about when you're not getting any.
Otherwise

 

[Vodka's My BFF]

I dunno I feel sex is a central part of any relationship. Without it you just have a really good friend, and sooner or later your going to meet someone who really Rogers's your Hammerstein.

Then you have cheating and all the ugly impacts...

I feel that sex is just like any other part of the relationship and requires a little bit of work to keep it healthy and growing.

I'll agree with you to some extent, but I wouldn't necessarily say that it's a central part of any relationship. Granted it is one of those elements, but sometimes after being with someone for a while it's just one of those things that you don't really get around to as often as you'd like. My SO and I have been together for almost two years. We've got a place together and, if it were legal here, would probably be married. After about six months of living together, we went from going at it rabbits to whenever it would happen. It's not really from lack of interest or anything, we both just keep different schedules: He works during the day and I work nights. For a whole hot minute there, he'd wake up when I'd get home, we'd have a drink, do the do and then pass out. That slowed just a titch because we're both tired that late in the evening (or early in the morning, depending on how you look at it). We've talked about it on several occasions and have concluded that we love each other enough to not have it as an everyday thing, just a few times a week. It is something, like you stated, that requires a bit of work to keep it healthy.

Voted a six, mainly because it's a luxury. Individually, we don't need sex to survive.

That struck a chord with me. It is a bit of a luxury and it's not something that is absolutely necessary to keep you going. I'll never fully understand why some people feel like that if they don't bang, their entire world is going to crumble before them. Or it makes them less of a person. I was in a relationship with a guy while I was in college and we would have sex every day of the four years we were together. Did I think everything was going great and he was satisfied on that front? Yes, I did. Was he? Hell, no! He had his various hookups he would visit while I was in class. How did I find out about this? I was in the Student Union using a computer and overheard a conversation someone was having on speakerphone. (Why they felt the need to share the call with EVERYONE, I'll never know...) I walked over and said the voice sounded familiar and dropped his name. Said individual said it was indeed him and that they had been hooking up for the past year. That's how I learned that even when you're getting it on regularly, there's still the assholes that will cheat.

TLR It's all a frame of mind. If it's a priority for you, good on ya mate. If not, more power to you. Sex has as much power over you as you allow it.

(Sorry about the brief rant. Also, "Roger's Your Hammerstein?" Love it! )

 

[Joan Nyan]

1.
I can't imagine ever even wanting sex with someone who I wasn't deeply in love with. It's not that I have a low sex drive or that I'm asexual, I just don't really want sex except as part of a relationship, and even then, only after a long time with them, and only when they feel like it. Maybe even never.

 

[Foulmouth]

1.
I can't imagine ever even wanting sex with someone who I wasn't deeply in love with. It's not that I have a low sex drive or that I'm asexual, I just don't really want sex except as part of a relationship, and even then, only after a long time with them, and only when they feel like it. Maybe even never.

Alcohol can help with that.

 

[Watcher]

Alcohol can help with that.

 

[UndeadPotato]

I voted a 3, I was surprised how many people voted less than or equal to me. Made me feel a little less weird about it. I think "sex" in the sense of "intercourse" is not really important to me. But sexual expression is; I want to be able to share everything about myself and my sexuality with my SO even if that doesn't mean touching each other.

 

[Judge Holden]

Alcohol can help with that.

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[exball]

Alcohol can help with that.

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