I think, that's one of the reasons why people don't feel sorry for Spoony anymore. They see what they could've become, if they ever gave up.I know a guy whose wife left him and took almost everything but the house, which flooded a few weeks after she left.
This guy reapplied himself, got a big promotion at work, got the house fixed, went to a therapist to get through the tougher times, took up meditation, accepted help from his friends, started exercising to get in better shape, and now he has a girlfriend way better looking than his ex-wife ever was.
Even if he had done only half of those things, he'd be in a better position now than he was at the time his wife left. The lesson is doing something is better than nothing...just saying.