Amber says she needs to film an actual binge for education purposes.. so we can tell the difference. aint that some lolcow logic
When the subject of "exposure therapy" was brought up, Amberlynn seemed particularly triggered and wouldn't elaborate on why. Anyone have any theories on what a therapist would choose to confront her with using exposure therapy? I'm unfamiliar with the subject.
She has built a fantasy of what's going on. I'm pretty confident she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and at least one or two other things going on. But the way she responds and manipulates everything is key to things not changing.Maybe a therapist dared to show her that she's a glutton in all areas of her life, and that gluttony is not a disease but a choice. Remember, Amber didn't chose the lardass life, it chose her.
ETA: If she was ever confronted, it was probably about all the obvious lies like how she won awards for choreography. The last thing a pathological liar can stand is being confronted with evidence of their lies. She's built a fantasy world and can't handle actual reality.
I've done research on repressed/recovered memories and it's about 50/50 on them being a thing vs being primed or fabricated accidentally or purposefully. It can happen and I've seen it before, but you are right about being able to remember a shit load of details about the event(s) as well.I am somewhat familiar, I have a masters in forensic science and a BA in criminology. We have to take some core classes regarding child psychology and child crime so repression and immersion theory comes up a little bit in these topics. I am always skeptical when “repressed memory” is brought up, especially when it comes to being molested as a child through exposure/immersion therapy. 99% of the time, unless you have been drugged, you will have what is called a “flash bulb” memory of the incident. Children who are molested will be able to tell you exactly what time of day it was, the date, what the weather was like what they were wearing and what color it was what the molester was wearing sometimes things even as detailed as how many lights are on in the room and if there are any noises like a TV or something in the background as well as smells. It is seared into their memory. Not saying immersion therapy is complete bullshit it can be beneficial in some areas but it also can create false memories of something that didn’t happen do I think Amber Lynn was molested when she was a kid, no I don’t.
Great description of exposure therapy. And why it might not work for her.Exposure therapy is used for a lot of anxiety/panic issues. Like say you had a fear of the dentist. The therapist might have you handle dental tools to start, measure your reaction, sit with your discomfort until you calm down and relax. Repeat until a step up, when they might have you sit in a dental lobby for a few minutes at a time, feel the stress, and relax. Amber doesn't do discomfort, so she knows this won't work for her.
I understand Abbey's reasons here but she did offload a lot of the responsibility from Amber. Even if you are being bullied, you can't stop the bullying necessarily so let's learn how mitigate and deal with this. Abbey did seem to have a lack of research on her actual eating habits.Well Abbey didn't help Amberlynn much. She essentially gave her the go-ahead to keep doing her "reasonable" mukbangs and to blame all of the haters whether she meant to or not. I suppose we of all people should be thanking Abbey for the entertainment this will bring.
Perfect. I have nothing to add.With the specific issues that Amber has (compulsive shopping, compulsive overeating), exposure therapy would mean working her slowly up to taking trips to stores where she normally goes hog wild spending just to browse, and keeping food around herself that she has to see but not eat, or eat only controlled portions. Based on some of the things she has said since going to the newest "weightloss specialist" in Lexington, I believe she thinks her supposed CSA is the source of all her mentuls and therefore the only thing she needs to work on, which is why she immediately dismissed the idea of exposure therapy. What she really needs to work on is exactly how you phrased it: learning to sit with discomfort, and she wouldn't be able to handle it at all.
Maybe not death, but it will further entrench Amber in her delusions.This Abbey Sharp video is really going to contribute to the death of this cunt. It’s basically coddling her and verifying all her nonsense.
I watched/listened to it about twice now. She is trying to rationalize everything she can. The things she admits to are so minor they are inconsequential. But being called out on things in a rational manner threw Amber and I think it knocked her down a bit even if she didn't show it. Could've been why she didn't finish vlogmas in some aspects.Im not mad at Abbey's video. It was nuanced and based in science, while being careful of not diagnosing or making assumptions. She's a professional and was trained to see any patient or case study as such.
I watched the whole thing and I see where she was coming from and her intentions were clearly not to come off as confrontational in the hopes that Amber would take some of the advice. Maybe thats the problem, it was too real, and with the absense of *hate* in the video, our gorl couldnt dismiss it as easily. Of course Amber had to do a shit ton of mental gymnastics to misunderstand all of Abbey's points on purpose to the point of rationalizing her own bad behaviour.
What Abbey failed to understand is that Amber doesn't want help. She wants asspats and pity while monetizing all her bad behaviours.
Pretty accurate breakdown. Anything positive she amplified or twisted to fit her train of thought and negatives she put blame on everyone else but herself, or attempted to rationalize her bad behaviors into good ones in her mind.this shit is almost AN HOUR AND A HALF? gotdamn
(not pictured, the probably hour and a half it took her to arrange both her massive self AND a laptop into the same frame)
-hi guys, people have been asking for her to react to this
-shes so nervous bc people are such meanies to her *squweeee*
-it probably chaps her ass that people asked a dietician to react to her
-abby says people bully amber so shes smugly looks at the camera
-abby says to talk to your dr about nutrition and alr nods along like shes an expert
-she really cant let any signle detail fucking go she has to stop and correct the smallest most irrelevant details
-who cares when it happened gorl you gained like 300 lbs on a WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY
-shes defending mookbongs again "just me being honest"
-she tries to say she doesnt binge in her mukbangs, bc the huge amount she eats is just her regular meals (we know) that would be binges for other people (sometimes)
-shes judging skinny mukbangers for eating too much
-quit pausing to be smug about how youre better than skinny people alr you fcking cow
-"iVe dOnE hEaLtHy mUkBaNgS bEfOrE"
-here come the fake tears when confronted with the fact that her eating caused her cancer
-"its all my fault boo hoo food ruined my life" FOOD ruined her life, she didnt ruin her OWn life, it was the FOOD
-"FOOD GAVE ME CANCER WAAAAH"
-she might actually be crying but it literally means nothing bc she will never change
-talking about her hysterectomy again
-she really didnt think this lady would bring up her OBESITY CAUSED CANCER? suuure, not just taking the opportunity to get more sympathy again lol
-you were never gonna have kids amber (thank god) so stop with the boohoo barren act
-alr appreciates that this dietician wont diagnose her (bc she doesnt have it) unlike her haydurs who UNdiagnose her
-tries to convince us she doesnt lie about what she eats in a day (liar)
-stop. fucking. pausing.
-ew that nasty pasta shit was featured lol
-the nerve of her to sit there and listen to this advice as if she'll listen to it
-of course all she heard was "make the smoothie but also eat more shit with it*
-smoothies make her dizzy, of course
-shes oohing and nodding at this advice, like shes totally understanding. if its never sunk it before it wont now
-bitches that abby keeps talking about her cancer *works up tears again*
-all this is doing is making her hungry
-fucking god she said she was hungry as i wrote that. what a cow.
-alr tells us the importance of nutritional balance, what an expert
-shes mad that abby says she sets herself up to binge, didnt have any comments to make there lol
-"im very all about low calorie" BITCH WHERE
-now shes trying to predict what abby will say because GUYS she KNOWS what WORKS
-more boo hoo muh cancer
-she has a total epiphany that she should eat more veggies
-the dietician lady told her to eat bigger meals guys its fiiiiine
-her bitchy face whenever abby says cancer lmao
-"people are INVALIDATING my STRUGGLE but theyre nice to the SKINNY people"
-her mukbangs are totally not binges guys.
-"i should film another binge to prove it" sure why fucking not. get that coin
-i hate how fucking smug she gets when other people are shown eating more than her
-shes doing that "omg can you believe how mean people are" voice and i hate it
-shes so jealous of skinny people that can do 10000 challenges
-now shes reading hate comments can you believe how mean people are to our dear dainty princess but theyre so nice to skinny girls?
-"the skinnier you are the more accepted it is to do anything" youre not overweight youre GROTESQUELY OBESE
-"i feel like mukbangs should be okay if its a normal meal youre gonna eat" yeah but when thats meal 1 of 10 for you....
-more smug face when abby says bullying obese people just makes them fatter
-"tough love doesnt work on me" bitch NOTHING WORKS ON YOU
-continues blaming her audience for making her overeat and binge but its not her fault for staying on youtube its our fault for not kissing her ass more
-"are internet trolls the reason for amberlynns binge eating?" "IM GONNA ANSWER THIS." tl;dr its her fault but realllly its the haydurs fault duh.
-abby just keeps handing her excuses. this is basically an assisted suicide at this point
-"when i eat by myself i eat so fast" youre just eating all the time thats the issue
-"i dont binge in front of people" except in her relationships, confirming she doesnt consider becky a person lol
-i cant believe this lady is basically giving her a free mukbang pass. shes gonna be smugly riding this high for weeks
-"i hate blaming anyone other than myself" BITCH SINCE WHEN
-weight loss is on her mind 24/7 suuure
-shes gonna start crying again lol. i think its bc abby said she cant even do normal activities
-crying bc apparently even if she loses weight shes just gonna gain it back. confirms shes gained a lot back (we know)
-abby throws in a lil comment about gaining back the famous 89 ellbees and alr scoffs
-alr basically says that people in her comments cant jude her bc theyve never walked in her size 42 leggings. kind of implies they dont know what its like to be hungry
-she also says that a 1200 calorie diet would make her binge to 800lbs. youre well on your way anyway
-she has no comment on abby talking about therapy. suspicious
-" this is making me realize i only ever eat after emotional hunger" like her mind is blown that shes not actually hungry shes just a fatass who eats to eat
-shes started messing with the camera and lights bc she doesnt want to listen
-EVERY psychologist shes seen says she has BED
-now theres a therapist talking and alr nods along again like she knows all this already
-"i eat a cupcake and im proud of myself" bc she hasnt eaten the whole dozen. except she does
-more fake epiphanies about " im so messed up"
-she ate 900 calories a day in virginia but also crazy binge. make it make sense
-shes allegedly in the 520's rn
-jenny craig was unhealthy bc she always though about food. unlike every other day.
-her heavy breathing is really distracting
-therapist lady says diets dont help bc it makes them feel like failures or something, as alr nods along and tries to look sad
-alr shits on inpatient care bc its not to help lose weight its to help treat BED. bitch. cow. cunt. THATS THE FUCKING POINT
-it astounds me that she wont go get her supposed BED treated bc its not a magic weight loss vacation
-"when i stop binging i lose weight" no shit dumbass
-admits she binges every night, which she will deny later im sure
-its takes a long time to lose weight, who knew?
-shes not saying she doesnt need to lose weight, but its just soooo haaaard and people are soooo meaaaaaan to her WHY is that OKAY
-god shes just so bullied and mistreated why wont someone HELP her
-its puts her in a dark hole. oh soon enough.
-shes crying again bc she "just wants to be normal"
-shes literally crying bc other people eat normal portions and not her giant ones lmao
-now shes crying over triggers and about the mean comments again. get off youtube then my fucking god
-still pretending she doesnt love herself more than anything else
-keep blaming the comments alr, just keep reading and eating yourself to death
-once again she ignores the comment about getting therapy
-her normal hunger is a one but her EMOTIONAL HUNGER is like a 15 my god why cant we understand "the things that she goes through"
-if she starts using her pillows as stress balls when she eats theyre gonna be so stained and greasy ew
-she disagrees with these professionals bc shes craving mcdonalds (its probably on the way) and thats BAD FOOD.
-has that fatty mindset of "bad foods dont count if you eat good foods with it" how often do we see them eat huge meals but they will put a little side salad or something with it lol
-says it doesnt matter how satisfying her meals are bc shes gonna binge no matter what
-alr shits on exposure therapy bc its 'scary' which i believe is the fucking point
-now shes acting like if abby was her dietician she would thrive. liar, youd listen to her for 2 days and then film a smug burger kind mukbang
-she likes that theyre not talking down to her (unlike everyone else)
-abby implores the haydurs not to be boollies anymore and amber cries some more
-alr keeps things private now bc people are just so mean
-we'll never know he tRuE lYfE bc BULLIES
-amber totally loved this you guys shes gonna subscribe bc it was soooo educational
-she wants people to put a random word (that she then gives us) to prove that we watched
so basically this was just an hour of amber alternating between being smug about how this dietician gave her excuses to binge, and crying bc people are just so mean to her and its all their fault that she gained 300lbs on a weight loss journey when if people had only been kind and kisses her honda sized ass shed be a skinny instagram model by now..
Unless she's willing to break the cycle and limit her income she will get from doing actual weight loss videos she will continue to do what she does.I skimmed through this video and heard Amberlynn say something about having “a great time seeing Christmas lights with Becky and thought I would vlog it.” After uploading the vlog she sees comments like “Too big for that car, you need a new one” etc. and apparently it changed her whole mood and caused her to binge.
Amberlynn is pretty much a slave to this channel as it’s her only source of income. She can try to punish viewers by going dark for a couple weeks but eventually she’ll want the money and will come back to see the same comments.
I don’t know what else she expects. This is YouTube. The day she declared herself to be a weight loss journey channel pretty much sealed her fate. I’ve seen the tide change in her comments when she made some progress or when she had cancer. So she can either get cancer again, or just lose weight.
I don't believe anyone is beyond help, most people aren't willing to invest the time and effort to get people to the point of change. Otherwise well said.Amber cherry picked what she wanted to hear in the video, so she could excuse her bad behavior and make excuses for everything she does. I truly believe she's incapable of help at this point.
They rationalize or pass blame because to admit the true problem is scary as fuck and requires accountability which most people in that situation are afraid of.I think the under reporting what they eat is a common feature with most people on MSHPL. Most of these super morbidly obese people claim that they hardly eat anything and do not understand why they are so big. They claim that it is either because of their glands or it is because of water retention. So, Amber, in a sense, is not any different than anyone else from MSHPL. Amber has been obese since she was a young lass, she truly believes that her eating is normal for her.
This is true. She set a good place to try and get through to Amber but Amber went and threw it away.Abbey does allude to underreporting what you're eating, and binging after a day of restrictive eating. She wasn't out to destroy Amber, she wanted to give her advice. Being aggressive and acting like the other reaction channels would be counterproductive.
Well said too. Accountability is important and none of the people in her life ACTUALLY hold her accountable.HAVING A BINGE EATING DISORDER DOES NOT ABSOLVE YOU OF ACCOUNTABILITY.
She acts like binge eating disorder is an incurable disease that is unaffected by her actions. No bitch. It means "I have a disorder and Im aware of it but Im making no steps to change it because FUCK IT! I'll binge every night and be 600 lbs instead!! Everyone should just be nice to me and praise me until I eat oreos to 1000lb! Don't you understand, its my disorder!!!!
Take some fucking accountability.
That podcast host's quote is very awesome. It's so true. I have my own mental health problems but I have to take the responsibility to fix them.There's a podcast host that has a long history of BPD, recently he made a point that our gorls could learn from. "Mental illness is not your fault, but it is your responsibility." I don't doubt that ALR has something wrong in her head - you don't get to be nearly 600 pounds without it - but like you said she lacks accountability even at 30 years old. She'll be content blaming her childhood and various disorders until she's dead.
Edit: Also can I just bring up the funniest fucking part of the video. "People were making fun of me being in the car! It made me feel so badly! It triggered me to binge!" Bitch, you can barely fit in a fucking car. That should be triggering you to change your life.
She likely is Delusional about what food is and what it means to eat properly. I could go very deep on this idea.I bet if you had food laid out and told Al to make a plate that she thinks represents what a normal persons portions would be, she'd load it up 3x what an actual average/recommended portion size would be and say that's 1 portion. Plus she already eats a few times the amount she thinks normal people eat. She's completely living in her own made up land.
Beautiful explanation. Exposure therapy is amazing but you have to be willing to do it and accept it's going to be scary at first.I saw a long response to this that wasn't correct, exposure therapy has nothing to do with recovered memories or whatever the fuck. Exposure therapy is for anxiety, especially phobias. A therapist teaches a patient relaxation techniques, and then they work from the least distressing exposure to the triggering stimuli to the most distressing over several visits until the patient can tolerate the most distressing stimuli. This type of therapy almost always works (more than 90% of the time), which is remarkable in the field of psych. Very few therapies have that level of efficacy.
Amber could benefit from exposure therapy to address her fear of hunger. I have seen her equate hunger with fasting, and equate fasting with starvation, and starvation with death (that last one isn't such a stretch, but the rest definitely is). I don't know if abby was talking about this or not, but I have thought it before when ALR discussed becoming panicked at the idea of going without food for a single day. While most people don't want to skip a day of eating because its miserable, they also would not panic, so she has a level of anxiety that isn't normal or healthy. She seems to really think she "will die" if she doesn't eat. Her brain took the info "humans need food to keep living" and twisted it into an irrational fear of hunger. It is the same kind of twisting she does when other people say things she does not like, that type of dishonesty has a tendency to infect all of a person's thinking eventually if it isn't confronted. Most of the horrible shitty fat people on this website have the same problem.
She's very inauthentic in this video. But I did notice a part or two that seemed to hit home. The whole part about being "normal" went beyond the rest of her reactions and emotions in the video. I think I noticed another part or two as well but can't recall at the moment.So are the Oscars suspended too because of the Rona?
Or else Amber should at least be nominated in one of the "independent" categories.
The instant switches between cryeeeeeen and constantly wiping non existent tears to normal tone and even laughing all within a second (like at 1.04 onwards for example) is all you need to know about this video.