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Meet Virgie, she makes a living peddling Health at Every Size (HAES), Body Positivity (BoPo) and Fat Acceptance (FA) to vulnerable women trapped in a cycle of self-loathing and medicating with emotional eating. Virgie has no discernible talents outside of cognitive dissonance which she uses to rationalize not taking responsibility for her actions, feeling entitled to sex and affection from others despite using the philosophy of self-ownership to tell people to mind their business about her weight - her body, her choice. Her shitty attitude (which she goes into great lengths describing and conflates for being brave) isn't the cause of people averting her, but rather they are jealous and don't know how to handle a hot fat babe. Virgie's wardrobe palette is reminiscent of colorful, venomous tropical fish that's profoundly tacky for anyone, let alone someone who appears to be well into their 40's. Any raised eyebrows at her retina burning ensambles are the projection of the fat phobia deeply ingrained in our society that oppresses Virgie and other morbidly obese women at every conceivable opportunity (read: taking offense where there is none).

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A bearable seventeen second video in which she explains why she's (literally) smashing the scale this year.

Fifteen minutes of word salad, but I've begun the video at the minute mark at which she describes enjoying licking leather shoes without a hint of shame. How cute and quirky.

For the low, low price of $99, Virgie will brainwash you into thinking the guilt from binge eating and accruing concerns over your personal health have no basis in reality. Introducing BABECAMP [Archive] after four weeks of this garbage you get a certification... in delusion.

Frequently Asked Questions:
Q: Why Did You Design Babecamp?
I put my life on a hold for a VERY. LONG. TIME. I was always on a diet. I engaged in starving behavior, obsessive exercising, and no matter what I did I never felt good enough, pretty enough or thin enough. I created Babecamp because I have walked a mile in a different pair of (much shinier) shoes. I not only believe it is every person’s right to have a harmonious relationship with their body, I go a step beyond that. I believe in every person’s right to feel like a total babe. That "I am never good enough" mindset is a learned ideology that is A LIE. Babecamp is about replacing that mentality and re-centering self-care and self-love, which are touchstones of our native relationship to our body.

During Babecamp you will get:

• PDF Certificate of Completion

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What makes people and ideologies like Virgie/HAES/FA/BoPo so insidious is that they foster substituting introspection (that nagging voice in the back of your head that reminds when you're fucking up, asks whether there's room for you to improve) for narcissism (a voice that congratulates you for being a fucking failure). People who lack introspection are generally insufferable; caught in a paradox of perpetual victimhood. Many of our personal problems stem from an internal source, but most people chronically place the onus of these problems on external ones outside of their control. It requires being critical of ourselves and making an honest commitment to change the things we come to realize we're self sabotaging our own happiness with. We can't control other people, but we are in control of ourselves - even our anxiety. Sometimes we sincerely want to make a commitment to self improvement, but can't because the path to it isn't clear to us, or we've picked a path that inevitably leads to failure. The path Virgie places her students and audience on is the latter. Instead of confronting the truth of their habits which may extend to something as serious as legitimate food addiction (that would require a 12 step program) Virgie assures her followers weight loss is impossible, and it's societies fault for not wanting to sleep with you and you needing a seat belt extender in a plane.

because being fat is illegal or some shit.

Virgie's blog and articles are a treasure trove of trash and entitlement, let's take a look at some of her writing:

Hyper-sensitive brat throws a massive tantrum because her boyfriend didn't want to spend all day in an arts and craft store, blames society for her overreaction. Later goes on to declare being loved a human right or some shit. [Archive.]

The cart was almost overflowing with all my weird supplies and 77%-off felt garlands, lanterns, and face tattoos. Then he got a text from his close friend, someone he doesn’t get to speak to often. He asked if we could leave in the next 15 minutes so he could touch base with him. When I told him it might be a little longer than that, he took on what I would consider “a tone.”

In retrospect, I realize that the tone was likely inspired by a couple of feelings, maybe “Ohmygod, I get that you can’t live without these tombstone cake toppers, but I can’t handle being in Michael’s for another hour!” with a little “I’m frustrated that you don’t care that I want to talk to this person who matters to me.” At the time, however, when he used the tone I heard, “I don’t care about you or your interests. Your time is worthless. I don’t care enough about our relationship to see that decorating my house is an emotional investment that is making you feel vulnerable. Literally anyone is more important than you right now.”

To a person with fewer trust issues (and less experience with being told they’re worthless because of their body size), “a tone” might go utterly unnoticed, may warrant an eye roll, or might even lead to a stifled tear, but nothing earth-shattering. To me, that “tone” merited my storming out of the store, stuffed cart left abandoned mid-aisle (sorry for being that asshole, Michael’s employees!), and my walking (about an hour) home.

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Despite being a self professed confidence guru, Virgie is made so apoplectic by a well meaning fan of her asking whether or not it was OK for her to lose weight that she nearly didn't answer the fan at all and then REEEEES about how evil weight loss is. [Archive.]

At first I thought I would avoid answering, and then I seriously considered answering it privately, but I realized that my desire to do so was largely motivated by fear of seeming upset and wanting to hide that out of some weird sense that I might alienate people. But I am upset.

This question has upset me, and I don’t want to promote the idea that writing about anger is bad or shameful because that is some sexist, respectability shit......

Though I often use phrases like “fat liberation” and “body positivity” interchangeably, I am at the end of the day resoundingly a fat feminist and a fat liberationist who is anti-weight loss.

Though I believe it is ultimately your choice to do what you feel is right with your body, asking a fat activist for “pro-weight-loss choices” is callous at best. That you are asking me — a fat woman – for weight loss tips is an example of your inability to see me as fully human because if you could see me as fully human you could understand that you are asking me for tips on how to be someone who looks less like I do.

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She used to have this great article on her blog about taking up like four seats on the train during rush hour (she spread all of her bags out to be a spiteful bitch) and avoiding making eye contact with the thin people glaring at her by "defiantly" leaving her sunglasses on (read: passive-aggressive), but I can't find it right now. She also shut the comment section down on her blog entirely instead of moderating them because she melts down at being confronted with any kind of criticism.