For people that put too much of an emphasis on consent, it makes no sense that they would claim that a partner not being interested in a particular type of sex play is kink-shaming. Surely they aren't saying somebody has the right to force their kinks on someone else? That doesn't sound very consensual to me.Ok, first of all: Disinterest in a kink - even vocal disinterest - is not shaming.
That's the thing. Many people who have sexual interests that might be seen as kinks know enough not to powerlevel about them and tell people that neither want nor need to know. If they tell anyone, it's usually limited to others they know share the same kink or people they know that have some sort of interest or curiosity and won't blab about what gets discussed about said kinks.And here I thought what happens in the bed room was supposed to be a private thing, this just sounds like some sick fucks want their perverse shit accepted by society
It's not surprising that in the age where people post everything on social media, they think they should be able to broadcast their sex life and preferences without consequence. Worse are the people that express this stuff on their primary social media account(s) or post pictures of themselves being pawed at or groped by their lovers even though their friends list includes parents, relatives, teen children, and other people that probably don't want to see that sort of thing (and shouldn't be seeing it, anyways).
I'm willing to bet the people that are quick to label others' sex lives as "vanilla" would find some bogus reason to say the label isn't kink-shaming in itself when their own standards and definition would consider it such.If you're a person who frequently uses the word "vanilla" to describe the sex lives of people you don't know or have sex with, you deserve to be shamed until you kill yourself.
Specifically relating to the OP article, there's a term for someone who asks an opinion of someone else and then reacts negatively to a politely-given "No" or negative response: special snowflake .