I think this partially has to do with the stupid and illogical oppression olympics bullshit. In the eyes of the LGBTBBQWTF lobby, lesbians are seen as more oppressed as gay men and they've told gay men that they don't want them in the acronym anymore. They expect Lesbians to be complacent in their ideology because they see oppression as a hierarchy with victimhood points where Lesbians and Gays oppress queers, genderspecials, and trannies and when they say no, they suffer the backlash of actual woke homophobia that harms them.For me, peak trans is the stories I've seen the past 2 years where lesbians talk about being tricked into dating by MTF "lesbians" and then harassed or raped. Domestic violence is apparently okay if you claim you're no longer a male even if you're still the one in the relationship who's taller, stronger, and has unilateral physical advantage over your partner.
Peak trans is when "Lesbians don't want to suck a dick" is considered TERF rhetoric. Peak trans is I'm reading unironic statements of "lesbians who claim they don't like penises because of being raped by men are TERFS!!!!1."
I also want to add that recently, a LESBIAN dating app called "Her" banned actual lesbians for complaining about the male genderqueers and troons using the app, while equivalent services for gay men seem to have no problem with banning FTM manlets for having vaginas. Really makes you think.