Your stance on corporal punishment -

[Monika H.]

What do you think of it?
Have your parents physically disciplined you as a kid? Would you discipline your kids that way?

To be honest, I'm a big softie on those things. I got physically disciplined by my mother and older sisters growing up, and it didn't really had any sort of effect on me, so I'll not be the kind of parent who'll use corporal punishment. My spouse disagrees as in her opinion "when it's needed it's needed" and she would not make herself the problem to physically discipline our future children.
It's one of the things we are settling on.

What's your stance? Share your opinion.

 

[Oskar Dirlewanger]

I love it and all my girl friends enjoy it too

(edit: oh the thread is about kids, spanking kids is weird and also sounds pedophiliac to me SPANK GIRLS NOT KIDS)

 

[Namesarehardtocomeupwith]

If corporal punishment were mainstream we'd have about half the lolcow threads we're currently having right now.

 

[Smug Chuckler]

There are better ways...

 

[keyboredsm4shthe2nd]

It breeds weird fetishes involving parental figures and/or sexual punishment. However that "sit in the corner/let's talk about it" pansy crap doesn't work either.

 

[{o}P II]

rotting in jail is arguably a more cruel punishment to just outright killing someone so its probably better to do the latter

 

[dreamworks face]

Corporal punishment shouldn't be entirely off-the-table - who hasn't encountered the table full of monsters parented by people who only use time outs? - but it should only be used for extremely serious parenting situations. For instance, if you catch the kid doing something dangerous (like trying to start fires), and it's already been explained to the child why doing the thing is a bad idea, then corporal punishment is warranted. Most of the people I've known who grew up with routine corporal punishment ended up fucked up though - Asian cultures like to use corporal punishment a lot more than westerners, and if you ever wondered why your Asian friends studied a lot but also rebelled in completely insane ways at school, it's because they weren't getting their asses beat at school like they were at home.

 

[mr.moon1488]

There are better ways...

I've always liked the negative/punishment approach, but I think it would be better to donate whatever item it is you're taking to charity rather than destroying it. Just seems wasteful to me.

 

[Autisimodo]

I see it as a Necessary Evil; As a young kid my parents only resorted to corporal punishment when I was really misbehaving, of course I didn't like it but I think it did me good in the end.

I do believe spanking is the only acceptable/reasonable form of corporal punishment, the belt/whip/canning shit is straight-up abusive in my opinion and I would never go that far if I were a parent.

 

[Gravityqueen4life]

my mother would slap the shit out of me when i did something very wrong and thinking back, i deserved most of it. getting a beating every now and than can do you some good. there is a clear line between abuse and discipline.

 

[heyilikeyourmom]

If corporal punishment were mainstream we'd have about half the lolcow threads we're currently having right now.

Giving them an excuse to claim their parents beat them would make them more insufferable, not less, to those that don’t find them hilarious.

 

[Lemmingwise]

Dr Benjamin Spock was the person who popularized the idea to not spank children.

He also told parents that they already know everything they needed to know and just trust their instincts.

He told parents that babies should sleep on their stomach to prevent deaths and the estimated death-count of that advice considering his considerable influence is in the 5 digits. Later evidence driven research showed that sleeping on the back is less risky.

One of his children ended up committing suicide, so it raises some questions what an expert he was on child-rearing.

The most important thing is that we really don't know; we're just guessing. Any child-rearing that incorporates corporal punishment wouldn't get past ethics committees and as a result, we don't know whether things like spanking are great or terrible.

 

[garakfan69]

I don't think corporal punishment is inherently bad but I also don't think it's necessary.

The parents who cry to be allowed to physically punish their child, are exactly the parents who shouldn't be allowed to do it.
If you raised a child so badly that you see no other way but to hit it you already failed as parents.

There are no magic bullets. If you want to teach your child discipline you need to show discipline yourself.
You need clear rules and apply them strictly and consistently. How you punish your child matters far less.
Way too many parents punish their children harder if they're pissed off or less when they're feeling generous or lazy. And then they're surprised when they act out on whims like their parents.

 

[Give Her The D]

Needs to happen a lot fucking more so we can get the garbage out of society.

 

[Some Manajerk]

I'm a fan of the embarrasment punishment in public "stick your nose against this wall and tell everyone who passes by what you did to deserve this." does wonders on shy children.

 

[Dreamland]

Ambivalent, i believe the virtue of lashings and the like are mostly that you're not wasting the convict's time (provided he's off the hook after his punishment) or society's money (no need to feed and house him). It is also the punishment that speak most to the basest stimuli for negative encouragement (people that are really dumb as bricks may not even consider the connection between them killing a man and their boring years in prison) which is why a dog get a paddling instead of a night without food if he bites you or shits everywhere.

Still i think everyone has the deep-rooted feeling that corporal punishment is also bestial and wrong in any civilized society.

 

[Deus Ex Macarena]

I've always found that simple grounding or taking stuff away no longer works in this day and age due to the wide range of technology and devices means that punishments lose their impact.

I'm all for creative and fitting punishments that don't involve whacking the kid even if he deserves it. Nothing beats taking a kid who wants to be a tough guy and telling how he's "Daddy's precious little soldier", they'll learn to behave themselves to avoid embarrassment and shame from the people he wants to impress. Even more fun if they have a girlfriend.

 

[L50LasPak]

If I got picked up for something illegal but minor such as drug possession I'd rather have a few minutes of immense pain and then several days of bandages and some house arrest than ten years in prison or worse. Period.

Repeat offenders can get prison time. Other than that, I am all for this for minor felonies.

 

[Nanook Rubs It]

A bunch of tender wishy washy hippy faggots. You gotta beat the kids sometimes. It's necessary. And, like everything else, there is a right and a wrong way to do it. You can't use example of extreme child abuse as an example of why you shouldn't give your kids 3 or 4 lashes with a belt for something particularly bad they did. Another issue where everyone is more concern with bordering in the extremes as opposed to finding a sensible solution for the average person.

 

[BONE_Buddy]

To throw my two cents in,

Corporal punishment should be a tool in a toolbox, perhaps a tool of last resort, but necessary to have.

Largely because it is such a visceral and visible punishment, it is mainly used as a deterrence, rather than a corrective action.

The mere thought that punishment can reach that threshold, often acts a suppressant to more radical behavior problems.

Especially if lighter forms of corrective action are not taken seriously.

Is it a fix all? no. Should it be used frequently? no. But I would not take it off the table.